The Abyss of Autonomy

Are you your own person? Congratulations but I caution you to remember the following:

A necessary component of independence will always be the ability to recognize not only one’s right to freedom, but also the acknowledgement (at the same time) of one’s own short-comings; to know that within your sphere of self- determination there also exists a need for others.

An abyss, exists as a deep and bottomless pit and if you were to find yourself within a physical chasm of this kind, there would be no way to remove yourself without the aid from others – and so it is in life. No matter how free, independent and “on our own” you wish to be, you cannot succeed without support.

Autonomy or free will of self, serves no useful function unless it is partnered with the shared need and responsibility of and for others.

Life shared is life well lived. No man or woman is an island, nor should they be. Our need for one another has never been greater than it is today.

Let us build no further gulfs between each other, instead, close the existing  gaps. Let us cultivate and grow within (and in spite of) our differences. There can be no autonomous abyss where free thought is coupled with the partnership of love and understanding among all.

Have an excellent week, with great affection,

~ Penny

Where Carcass Lay … Vultures Gather!

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Often … following failure … illumination arrives! An enlightening expanded awareness, emotionalized by the pity of self.

Yes, self pity, frequently seen to be in attendance along with illumination, uncomfortably sharing space with one’s emerging realization of having messed up, lost the game, or the prize … and one does feel quite the fool, perhaps likening onto fallen prey just prior to expiration.

Although, retrospectively, we must assume the last thing on the dying prey’s mind would be illumination, perhaps rather just a single final thought, such as ” …Oh Crap”! That might do, but generally speaking however, those thoughts and feelings are left for those of us who live on after the fall, continuing to skirt the precipice between success and failure.

I will waste only a few words in the contemplation of mundane humans, and there are many, whose walk through life is an unmitigated bore because they come and go determined to make no waves, go with the flow, be among the passive, receptive only of “group mentality” and not interested (perhaps fearful or envious) of the original idea or thought, but with no goal in mind except to blend in, which they do until …

But enough about those, although they number greatly and are oft seen among the vultures sitting in the wait, which is usually viewed as a “safe” place to be, for all except the arriving carrion.

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Ah yes, the encroaching vultures, for they do encroach while waiting in the sidelines, certainly not cheering one on, unless it be towards failure. So they wait …

It would certainly be much easier to get up, dust oneself off and get on with things, if not for awareness of the waiting vultures. Their jeering and calling out with scathingly searing voices continually reminding of failures, shortcomings, errors and misfortunes. And they are never far away, are they? Their echoes repeat in memory’s shadowed losses.

And if true, where and when does “positive” illumination break through into the light to lift us up, make us whole again, prepare us to do battle, shore up the weakened places, make us stronger, more determined, if needs be, to achieve our ends. When does inspiration come? How does it come, through the darkness of known failures and ever expanding fears?

Does it peak around corners, wondering if it’s safe to come out, or does it consider alternatives and make carefully planned and strategic moves?

I think not!

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“Know this, all you free thinking creative ones – INSPIRATION is born from within where there be no rationale for the negative or wrong, only the mightiest sensation and manifestation of possibilities, the very essence and nature of inspiration is such that it springs into being within a single seed of potential found at the core of our soul’s universe – needing nothing more to come forth but … THE BELIEF THAT IT CAN!” 

~ Penny L Howe, 2014

Fudge – Anticipation and fulfillment of a comfort food!

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Homemade Fudge

So I made fudge today.

It was one of “those days”. You know the kind, where something a little extra is needed and I do admit to loving chocolate. Homemade fudge is one of my favorites. There is something absolutely wonderful and soothing about fudge, but not just eating a piece (or two).

The whole experience is wonderful. The chocolate aroma that lingers not just in the kitchen, but throughout the house and of course the anticipation of …

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Spoon Full of Fudge

… eating the fudge left on the mixing spoon (Emma called dibs on the spoon) notice she’s enjoying her fudge while she listens to her favorite tunes.

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Enticement of a pan of fudge

… to cleaning out the fudge left in the pan (Jordan called dibs on the pan.) Notice she even stopped her conversation on her iphone while she enjoyed scraping the pan for every morsel of the delicious chocolate.

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Fudge – Have a piece, or two!

 

As for me … Well I had a few pieces of fudge with a glass of milk while I sat down and wrote this blog. I’d share the fudge with you if I could. Just know I’m thinking of you even as I finish the last little bite!

Mmmmmmmmmm! It is so yummy, yes definitely a comfort food! I feel very comforted right now.

Hope your week is going well for you, thank you for stopping by,

~ Penny

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The Game of Life – If you can’t win, be creative!

Don’t you feel that sometimes life is like playing a game. And it can be especially difficult when you feel like you’re missing part of what you need in order to play the game well.

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However, I like to think that for us ‘creative types’, we compensate for our game playing shortcomings with a most magnificent imagination. Changing (in our minds) the game more to our liking.

At least part of the time. As needed. Upon occasion. Every now and then. (Okay, sometimes more than we should!)

So stay creative, my friends. Keep your imagination alive and well. After all its what kids do best when they’re playing games. It works well for them!

Have a good day and better tomorrow,

~ Penny

Our Masks of Acceptability!

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No matter how beautiful and colorful, a mask is still something you hide behind. Wouldn’t it be grand and wonderful if we felt secure enough to reveal all the parts of ourselves to other people? Our deepest concerns and worries. Our greatest hopes and desires, so that we might be supported, encouraged and empowered to become all that we can be.

But too many of us never do. Fear of being hurt or even worse – spurned, rejected and ignored – keeps us within carefully constructed facades. Our “acceptable” masks. The ones we feel safe in wearing. The masks we spend a whole life improving upon.

Proportionately speaking, the probability is, the more well crafted our “masks of life” become, the less capable we are of fulfilling our own personal hopes and dreams.

Within the safety of our masks, (and some of our masks are so well conceived they become works of art we present to others – impenetrable and yet transparent), we become seemingly predictable, agreeable; illusions of what others think we should be. Very acceptable and very stagnant – An entropy of life. Not who we had meant to be at all … in the beginning of things … when we first started out!

Take off your mask of acceptability!  You - the person beneath the mask – are really quite amazing. No more hiding.

Time to live!

~ Penny

Celebrate the Difference – YES!

Sometimes, someone (unexpectedly) gets it absolutely correct! I applaud Dallas-Fort Worth, Texas Sportscaster, Dale Hansen for getting it 100% correct with his commentary regarding Michael Sam and the people of our country because THAT’s what this country is all about – An excellent reminder to celebrate the rich diversity of our cultures, backgrounds, and beliefs! This is truly what makes us great!

Thank you Dale!

~ Penny L Howe