Why You Should Hurry up and Slow Down!

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You should try sitting still – for just a few minutes every day – rest your body & mind and while you’re sitting there, try reflecting on the WHY of what you do every day. You may surprise yourself with some of your answers.

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We live in a crazy hurry up world. And its not slowing down. But you can. All that’s needed is a little bit of preplanning to remove from your life whatever isn’t helping right now, be it an activity, certain thought processes, or a person.

1. Activities – Anything you do that is done out of habit, and not necessary or helpful to you, think about letting it go.

You might also consider the amount of time you spend with social media, just sayin’.

If you are constantly called upon to do favors for others, who don’t reciprocate in their turn, regarding your needs, start saying no to them. Doing things for others is nice, but can be very time consuming (this includes family members).

2. Worries – If you spend a fair amount of time worrying about things then it’s time to make a list and see which of those worrisome things you can actually do something about. Effort on your part will be required, but the end result is you’ll have less things to worry about.

3. People – There are people out there with poor attitudes and an overall negative outlook on life. You don’t need these people around you. They’ll go out of their way to tell you what you’re doing wrong or what’s wrong with you or someone, or something you care about.

Dump them. You don’t need them or their negativity. And chances are they’re also one of the items you spend time worrying about so you’ll have removed two things that take away precious time, a person(s) and an item on your worries list (this also includes family members).

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Bottom line here is value yourself highly by BALANCING your needs with time spent. If you aren’t good to yourself, those you do care about will suffer – as will you.

Thank you for stopping by, have a great time saving day!

~ Penny

Important Tips – How to Be a Successful Writer!

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Stay writing, no matter what. The water does not flow until the faucet is turned on” ~ Louis L’Amour

Write … on the good days.
Write … on the bad days.
Write … when your happy.
Write … when your sad.
Write … in the morning, and/or
Write … in the afternoon, and/or
Write … in the evening, and/or
Write … in the night time.

Just Write!

That’s it. The one thing every single successful writer will tell you is that they write – a lot – whole bunches & bunches of words.

All the other things you’ll need to know about editing, publishing, marketing etc. you can research and learn … when you’re not writing!

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Thanks for stopping by, have a great weekend – are you writing? ☺

~ Penny

Friendship ~ The Truth of It!

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“The thing about true friendship is the absolute truth that flows from the heart. No exceptions. It just is.” ~Plh

Be a true friend. Care, make a difference – where it counts. There is always room in our hearts for another true friend, always.

But I have no friends“, you say. Then go help someone. Help several someones, but help because you want to. Set no conditions, no requirements.

You’ll discover friendship along the way. And when friends come, nurture the relationship. Share, care and be there!

It will become a true friendship.

Know there are those who will use your friendship, taking advantage of your good will. Do not be discouraged for they do not really understand.

Help as you can with good intent. They will be the ones who decide the direction your friendship will take.

And always remember … “a friend in need is a friend indeed” – Be there!
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Thanks for stopping by, have a great tomorrow.

With affection,
~ Penny

It Isn’t Easy, But It Is Simple

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LifeI refer to life here. Complicated complex life, except it really isn’t, or it doesn’t need to be. We make it so with our thoughts, actions and attitudes.

There are many homilies and quotes referencing this too. “Simple is as simple does” or the most well known “K.I.S.S.” but we don’t “keep it simple“. We run around complicating the crap out of everything.

So tomorrow or better yet today … right this minute … think of how you can uncomplicate your life, and a good place to begin is with your over-used, overworked emotions. They’d love a little relief from the stress of it all.

As it is now, your mind will transfer your emotional stress overload to various parts of your body, creating even more interesting and uncomfortable complications …

all of which are unnecessary. Simplify! Let go of that which is not really important. You’ll be pleasantly surprised with the results. I promise.

Have a wonderful week ahead and remember to take care of you.

With affection,
~ Penny

Your Self Fulfilling Prophecies – Are they Good or Bad Ones!

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How many of you begin your day with self depreciating remarks? Or statements about what’s going to go wrong today. Or all the reasons everything bad seems to happen to you. Or perhaps you say to yourself, “why bother to try? This person or that person is going to ruin my day!”

These type of thoughts and statements become self fulfilling the more you repeat them. You send a signal to your brain that says you can’t win, you can’t overcome and … that you think of yourself or your situation as a losing one.

First rule of being happy much less successful is to believe in yourself. Not because you’re going to go out tomorrow and conquer the world, but because where you are, right this minute is only temporary and you’re a good person who can ‘step by step’ move forward in a positive way, because you know you can. You believe in you.

What really, really helps the “step by step” process is to not tell yourself, ahead of time, why you can’t do something. Or blame a situation or a person for problems and circumstances. We all feel insecure and worried, even fearful at times. This is normal but it shouldn’t stop us from accomplishing our goals.

 So today is a good day to start saying those self fulfilling things that support what you want to do. Things like “Today I’m going to get my tasks done regardless of what comes my way.” Or “I’m not going to let another person’s negative attitude or perhaps even rude bullying behavior affect me”. Or “Today I believe in me and someway, somehow I will do those things I’d planned to do.”

You positively reinforce your own mindset (thinking patterns of behavior) when your thoughts, words and action have a “can do” mentality. It will strengthen your resolve as well.

Try it. You’ll discover it really works. And by repeating daily, this can make a significant difference between success and failure. Remember you’ve only failed when you stop! Every other thing that goes wrong is just a temporary disappointment and a part of your ongoing learning experience.

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Have a great day and … always, take care of you!

With affection,

~ Penny

 

The Beauty of a Woman

The beauty of a woman is not an exterior thing. Although from a physical perspective there are many beautiful women. The beauty of a woman isn’t just an interior thing. Most women are amazingly loving, caring and giving. The beauty of a woman lies in the unique combination of genes that created her.

dna_2-t2She stands alone on several fronts. It is a given that ‘needs be’ she can accomplish more in a single day than thought possible but even that isn’t the main beauty of a woman.

Her very essence and nature draws people together. Encourager of Humanity if you like. She is a nurturer and a teacher (regardless of her own educational level) she will immediately go into a teaching mode with another when seeing the need. For most women it is instinctive. She is a nurse and seems to know when and how to fix a wound, a hurt, an ailing part of another human being.

And while she may look for her place in the order of things and struggle to be recognized for her true value and worth … know this … it is already there built into her very being.

She is a female and this defines her better than any other. Mother of all and essential to life, not because she carries, gives birth and then nurtures us as children, but because she also sustains us as adults.

And she always will … regardless of the ever increasing roles and responsibilities she has in her life.

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Thanks for reading, have a wonderful remaining week and always remember … take care of you!

with much affection,

~ Penny

I Am Going to Succeed …

… because I can be more than I am … BECAUSE I believe in Me! (Say mantra daily and repeat as needed.)

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Life has a habit of intruding into our plans. Have you noticed this? I certainly have. You find yourself derailed from the direction you were headed by some unanticipated occurrence. And in many cases it seems to be an ongoing scenario, those unanticipated interruptions.

So what to do? Simplify your daily task schedule, (as you can) create a little spare time to handle potential interruptions. A good portion of what throws us off base are the emotions experienced (stress) with an unexpected event. Allowing for the possibility of unexpected intrusions in your day gives you a more positive mindset for approaching and resolving unplanned situations.

Work on improving your personal organizational skills. Between work and family (both young and old) and the variety of responsibilities accompanying each area of involvement, the better organized you are, the better equipped you will be for tackling your tasks and completing them.

There are going to be hard days. I’ve discovered the best way to deal with them is to Think Positive and stay emotionally in control of yourself, don’t go to a ‘bad place’. Don’t allow negative thoughts to take over. Remind yourself you can get through this latest interruption. Regardless of what it is.

There are many excellent examples of average people who manage to continue on, in spite of overwhelming odds and adversity. What they all have in common … they never lose sight of their goal, they stay determined and they … Believe in Themselves!

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Have a great week ahead, and as always … take care of you. If you aren’t well not only do you have a harder time accomplishing your goals, you can’t be there for those who need you!

With affection,

~Penny