Holidays are always the time for romance and love, the holiday spirit sets the stage. But as with most romances or well written romantic stories there is an essential ingredient that is the key to an outstanding Romance. And whether it’s a story of your life or reading a book, or viewing a movie, it still holds true:
“The power to possess – that which is fascinating”
Those are strong and emotional words; the key here is that possession through love has a seductive and therefore alluring charm – captivation by desire.
If a woman is “desired” because she is viewed as fascinating and those feelings of attraction are mutual – the power to possess and be possessed becomes understood and highly desirable (by both).
There is a reason so many hundreds of millions of women (of all adult ages) around the world love well written romance stories and novels.
There is no negative when the desire to be possessed is understood as being an essential element of being wanted, needed and loved.
So as corny as it may sound, it is still true – The more “manly” the man (as in, take charge, make things happen ‘kind of guy’ – even the quiet and silent type) and the more “feminine” the woman, as in viewed as sensual, some quality about her that is alluring, all the rest is for show. He can be almost any age and so can she if you build on the qualities of fascination.
Infatuation can initially be limited to a visual and physical one of course.
It often is, but is short lived without the understanding of the other needed elements which create an allure of fascination; the unique qualities of one that make them so fascinating to the other.
It’s what ramps the volume up, it’s the exciting bits where each comes to terms with the other.
Almost as combatants and yet with this nebulous quality of fascination always underlining everything.None of these words are to be confused with the implication that the woman must be weak, fragile, uneducated or dependent.
Nor should these words be construed that the man must be a strong and physical man who by his nature takes what he wants. Both of these ideologies are dated and at error.
Today the essence of a good romance, once again is to evoke the imagination by having the partners attracted to one another by the strongest aphrodisiac imaginable – fascination and the desire for possession.
It works in real life too, by the way! Or so I’ve heard. I hope you enjoyed this brief class on Romance today, I enjoyed presenting it to you.
Have a great day, oh and by the way, this holds true with marriage partners as well. Fall in love all over again with the fascination of your partner!