Holidays are always the time for romance and love, the holiday spirit sets the stage. But as with most romances or well written romantic stories there is an essential ingredient that is the key to an outstanding Romance. And whether it’s a story of your life or reading a book, or viewing a movie, it still holds true:
“The power to possess – that which is fascinating”
Those are strong and emotional words; the key here is that possession through love has a seductive and therefore alluring charm – captivation by desire.
If a woman is “desired” because she is viewed as fascinating and those feelings of attraction are mutual – the power to possess and be possessed becomes understood and highly desirable (by both).
There is a reason so many hundreds of millions of women (of all adult ages) around the world love well written romance stories and novels.
There is no negative when the desire to be possessed is understood as being an essential element of being wanted, needed and loved.
So as corny as it may sound, it is still true – The more “manly” the man (as in, take charge, make things happen ‘kind of guy’ – even the quiet and silent type) and the more “feminine” the woman, as in viewed as sensual, some quality about her that is alluring, all the rest is for show. He can be almost any age and so can she if you build on the qualities of fascination.
Infatuation can initially be limited to a visual and physical one of course.
It often is, but is short lived without the understanding of the other needed elements which create an allure of fascination; the unique qualities of one that make them so fascinating to the other.
It’s what ramps the volume up, it’s the exciting bits where each comes to terms with the other.
Almost as combatants and yet with this nebulous quality of fascination always underlining everything.None of these words are to be confused with the implication that the woman must be weak, fragile, uneducated or dependent.
Nor should these words be construed that the man must be a strong and physical man who by his nature takes what he wants. Both of these ideologies are dated and at error.
Today the essence of a good romance, once again is to evoke the imagination by having the partners attracted to one another by the strongest aphrodisiac imaginable – fascination and the desire for possession.
It works in real life too, by the way! Or so I’ve heard. I hope you enjoyed this brief class on Romance today, I enjoyed presenting it to you.
Have a great day, oh and by the way, this holds true with marriage partners as well. Fall in love all over again with the fascination of your partner!
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Thank you! 🙂
Achieving a balance as a couple, now that’s the tricky part! Great post Penny. 🙂
100% agree. It is the balance thing. My daughter wisely has repeatedly said over the years it’s about it being a 60%- giving and 40% receiving scenerio … on both sides! 🙂
oooo ~ love romance – and love this post! Another wonderful, insightful discussion. I also was totally in agreement with what Alastair said ~ so much about ‘soul’ … it is the most important element in both true friendship and romantic love, in my opinion. Fascination ~ may it live on and on and on! Enjoyed this dearest Penny … truly! xxoo Love to you ~
Thank you Robyn. To me fascination is the spark, a catalyst that carries humans through the realities of understanding and dealing with each of our own individual short-comings, the reminders of why we feel about our partners the way we do. It’s what makes romance that’s just getting started so special, that extra something that sets that person so uniquely apart. The connection of soul is an enduring deep feeling that enriches a relationship between to people, the tie that binds, the “fascinating” part is the frosting on the cake, or the bow on the gift” kind of thing! Much, much love to you my dearest of friends ~ Penny xxoxx
Once upon a time I didn’t think romance would exist in my life…then one day he appeared. And – we are living happily now & hopefully forever after…The End 😉
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The perfect love/romance story. Just perfect RoSy! 🙂 xxxoxxx
I am amazed, Penny, at how you manage to produce such amazing posts at least once a day. Your sage advice can help so many people so often.
This post on romance is brilliant. I have always found that you fall in love with the soul. It is nice when the face is aesthetically pleasing, but not necessary. It doesn’t matter the size, colour, height, ability, disability it is the soul that takes command in love. When someone has a good soul, they are desirable, alluring, enticing and can be open to like-souls. Whether they are 5 metres apart, 500 miles or 5,000 miles. Real love and romance is not restricted by distance.
I do believe one of the most romantic gestures has to be surprise flowers. Over here, we used to have an advert “Say it with flowers” and I believe we can. Sorry, I appear to have rambled…
No worries. Romance is simple and complex at the same time, getting a balance is the trick I think! 🙂
AnElephantCant now stop wondering
If he still has a chance of romance
He has been in a trance
And to La Belle France
Is it time to advance and begin a new dance
He hears that love can be found in strange places
Minneapolis or Lesmahagow
Maybe he is not trying
Romance can be online
Then there’s no limit to how far he can go
I agree with you on that one. Amazing actually if one thinks about it and travels back to our parents generation of how romance happened! 🙂