How many of you begin your day with self depreciating remarks? Or statements about what’s going to go wrong today. Or all the reasons everything bad seems to happen to you. Or perhaps you say to yourself, “why bother to try? This person or that person is going to ruin my day!”
These type of thoughts and statements become self fulfilling the more you repeat them. You send a signal to your brain that says you can’t win, you can’t overcome and … that you think of yourself or your situation as a losing one.
First rule of being happy much less successful is to believe in yourself. Not because you’re going to go out tomorrow and conquer the world, but because where you are, right this minute is only temporary and you’re a good person who can ‘step by step’ move forward in a positive way, because you know you can. You believe in you.
What really, really helps is to not tell yourself, ahead of time, why you can’t do something. Or blame a situation or a person for problems and circumstances. We all feel insecure and worried, even fearful at times. This is normal but it shouldn’t stop us from accomplishing our goals.
So today is a good day to start saying those self fulfilling things that support what you want to do. Things like “Today I’m going to get my tasks done regardless of what comes my way.” Or “I’m not going to let another person’s negative attitude or perhaps even rude bullying behavior affect me”. Or “Today I believe in me and someway, somehow I will do those things I’d planned to do.”
You positively reinforce your own mindset (thinking patterns of behavior) when your thoughts, words and action have a “can do” mentality. It will strengthen your resolve as well.
Try it. You’ll discover it really works. And by repeating daily, this can make a significant difference between success and failure. Remember you’ve only failed when you stop! Every other thing that goes wrong is just a temporary disappointment and a part of your ongoing learning experience.
Do not ever believe you are incapable or undeserving of the enrichment and fulfillment of happiness, love and creative endeavor. You are. We all are.
Life’s pathways may vary during our adventures in life. But happiness is yours for the having, love is yours for the giving/receiving and creativity “with achievement” are yours for the doing. Yours for the believing that this is so.
Because it’s true. Believe in you, never doubt even on the most negative of days. Always remember – You make it happen because …
Thank you. Have a great weekend ahead and take care of you.
With sincere affection,
11 thoughts on “Everyday Wisdom Hidden in Plain Sight – About You!”
I never believe other people will ruin my day for me. Other people can only ruin it if I allow them to, and I am quite capable of ruining my own day for myself. I think looking in and smiling can make the whole world of difference and show you that you are the person who controls your own happiness.
Another big truth, Al. You are a wise mage, my friend.
Haha I wouldn’t call me wise lol
That’s okay, I do!
That was one of my greatest vices. Throughout my childhood, teen years and even into my 30s, I rarely felt something good would happen to me each day I woke up. I feel that’s one reason I became addicted to alcohol in my early 20s. I wanted to deaden those bad sensations, while still trying to get others to approve of me. I finally snapped out of it – so to speak. I realized other peoples’ rules don’t apply to me and I am worth something.
I’m so pleased to hear you overcame that, Alejandro. Society’s “norms” are often destructive to those of us who are unique onto ourselves and don’t well fit stereotypes. Hope you are doing well. I consider you a special friend, a talented, intelligent, and sensitive individual with a lot going for you.
Positive affirmations is something I must work on daily, and I’m getting there! 🙂 Have a fabulous weekend Penny.
Hi LuAnn. I missed your birthday. Hope it was a great one. I agree, positive affirmations are quite the endeavor. Good for you for making it work. 🙂 You too dearest friend, have the best weekend ever!
Good to hear from you Penny. Thanks for the birthday wishes.
Most welcome, LuAnn.