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It’s Okay to Be What You Are: Human

/ Penny L Howe / 6 Comments

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It is okay to be human and it’s okay to make mistakes. It’s also okay to say “I made a mistake”. It’s okay to fail. And okay to say the wrong thing at the wrong time; to make an error of judgement; to let someone down you care about; to be fearful at times; to be stressed out; to worry about today and or/tomorrow; to feel guilt/anger/disappointment/hurt over something from yesterday. It’s okay to feel all these things because you’re/we’re human.

Every single one of our species on the planet is human. Before we’re anything else we are born as human beings. We ALL share this commonality. Everything else, we become aware of or learn about afterwards – Our race – Our ethnic background – Our belief systems. Our likes, dislikes and so forth.

The most important thing is while we’re (all of us) busy being human, each of us is unique. This is important to remember. We will, as we grow, have individualized strengths and weaknesses specific to our background and experiences. Very important to remember in the scheme of everyday life because this is why we make mistakes, each to his or her own, according to our particular learning curve and life adventures.

Therefore, to live one’s life it is imperative to recognize our own humanness and accept that things will go wrong and sometimes it is because of something we did or didn’t do. Accepting it and moving on is the best way to be okay with yourself.

There are many stressful things happening in the world today and I doubt it is going to improve any time in the near future. But how you feel, first about yourself and then about others will help you to guide yourself through this troubling time period. You’ll find you can make better choices for yourself and those you care about if you remember you’re human (and all the inherent weakness that comes along with). Armed with this perspective and acceptance, you will be able to expand the control you have within your own environment.

It’s that simple, really. The input from others and how you relate to them begins with recognizing that you are first and foremost a human being (as are they) and it’s okay to not be perfect. To be different. To be your own person. Respecting yourself goes along with this and towards others respecting you as well. How you relate to yourself is how others will relate to you and reaching your own goals will depend on just how well you treat yourself first.

Recognize and accept that you may not always get things right but … it doesn’t make you any less of a person or human being. You’re still you. You’re still important, whether making mistakes or not and you always have the value of being your own unique person … that’s what really matters most. To you and everyone else.

Thanks for stopping by, I wish you well.

With great affection,

Penny

Your Life – A Miracle Waiting for You

/ Penny L Howe / 8 Comments

New Day’s Song

“Stilling morning mists

in silent breath of dawn,

bring peaceful subtle longings

while whispering new day’s song.”

~ Plh, 2017

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We are alive, a miracle in and of itself, yet as we go through daily routines and established habits (necessities we’ve determined we need for survival purposes) it is still our raw and basic emotions creating and shaping each new day. We are in a daily struggle to overcome self-imposed limitations by dwelling on previous dramas in our life even as we fear potential new ones in the making.

It’s good to recognize that our passions not only propel us forward but just as frequently pull us backward into an individualized and self-imposed prison of reality – one largely of our own making.

Untapped powers, currently existing within each and every one of us remain over burdened by our ever expanding collection of negative emotions, often to the point where we remain frozen as it relates to forward momentum needed for reaching personal goals of happiness and health or more simply put – that overall feeling of well being desired by each of us.

Dormant reservoirs of strength and creativity lay silently within our hearts and mind while negative emotions flourish creating additional handicaps (both mental and physical). Truth is, almost every single handicap we believe we have can be overcome with the right incentive,

which is …

… a sincere belief in one’s self. Your personal strength behind this belief propels your imagination and creativeness, which in turn then proceeds to ignore, let go of, or leap over internal boundaries (emotional limitations) you’d previously created. There exists today far too many examples (both anecdotal and factual evidence) of humans overcoming and succeeding against amazing odds for this not to be a truth to recognize, accept and embrace.

We … we create the reality for each of our new days.

Isn’t it past time for you to let go of personal perceived short-comings – the physical, the mental and the spiritual? Isn’t it time to become all you are truly capable of becoming?

Life is far more than we understand or comprehend and therein lies our new day reality.

There isn’t anything you or I can’t accomplish if we decide it is so, we’ve but to awaken ourselves to our own internal miracle which we are.

Life is ours for the living, the believing, and the doing.

For each of our own individual miracles to happen, it takes but our choice to make it so.

Believe in Yourself! 

Begin with this new day. It’s yours, after all!

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Wishing each of you many prosperous and happy days to come.

My sincerely affection to all,

~ Penny

When Nights in Paradise Become Lonely

/ Penny L Howe / 10 Comments

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The physical attributes of paradise cannot be gainsaid and needless to add, each person has their own view of what their surroundings of paradise would contain.

But here’s the thing, just as no person is an island onto themselves, our emotional hearts require the taste and nourishment of paradise too. Without shared love, affection and caring regard from others to sustain and lift us up in our darker hours, a creeping insidious aspect begins; even in the most seemingly ideal paradise (perspectively speaking). An aspect which may ultimately undo the original intent of a seeker of paradise.

*For me, paradise is first and foremost about bountiful and sincere expressions and actions of love, after which the ambiance of physical trappings may be added.

“Seek you then to love openly and freely with caring, joyful fulsomeness. The best sort of paradise will always begin within loving hearts.”~Plh

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May your days ahead be filled with many good things. Have the best week possible. Thanks for stopping by.

(*btw I’m perfectly understanding of the many many who, in today’s interesting times, would be content with just waking up to a less insane mentality than the one currently proliferating around the world. Me too!)

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With sincere affection,

~Penny

The Nature of Your Nature – An Ascendance of Self

/ Penny L Howe / 2 Comments

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 Heart and Mind

You have emotions and “feel” certain things every day of your life. Depending on the experiences of that day, your feelings are happy or sad, angry or hurt, excited or bored, painful or ecstatic; but you always feel something.

In addition to everyday feelings we have our heartfelt feelings. You know the ones. They turn your life upside down and change everything, either good (which is an excellent feeling) or bad (definitely not so good)!

This then, is your life and each day you’ll be the one who either allows feelings to control actions or you learn to take a deep breath and then act in a reasonable way, wisely determining when to give your feelings “free rein” and when to hold on tightly to them until that surge of emotional upheaval passes.

Which will be in ascendance for you, your mind or your emotions?

“Wisdom ~ definitely the acquired elixir of life’s learned experiences from which one intuitively knows when to imbibe and when to refrain.” ~ Plh

Be safe and have a positive week.

~ With affection,

Penny

You Promised Me This …

/ Penny L Howe / 7 Comments

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Unspoken it’s true
Yet you promised me this:
With our last kiss
one shared with bliss.

With final embrace
that’ll never erase
your gentle caress
of finest finesse.

Promising truly
a shining sublime
of, lasting always,
a love so divine.

Never ever to be
… feeling bereft
and though I still cry
I now know why
… you left.

Tho’ love can be pure
It sometimes can’t endure
or so it seems
save in one’s dreams.

“So I’ll see you there
sweet love of mine,
Where love will last
for all of time.” ~ Plh, 2016

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It Isn’t Easy, But It Is Simple

/ Penny L Howe / 14 Comments

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Life – I refer to life here. Complicated complex life, except it really isn’t, or it doesn’t need to be. We make it so with our thoughts, actions and attitudes.

There are many homilies and quotes referencing this too. “Simple is as simple does” or the most well known “K.I.S.S.” but we don’t “keep it simple“. We run around complicating the crap out of everything.

So tomorrow or better yet today … right this minute … think of how you can uncomplicate your life, and a good place to begin is with your over-used, overworked emotions. They’d love a little relief from the stress of it all.

As it is now, your mind will transfer your emotional stress overload to various parts of your body, creating even more interesting and uncomfortable complications …

…all of which are unnecessary. Simplify! Let go of that which is not really important. You’ll be pleasantly surprised with the results. I promise.

Have a wonderful week ahead and remember to take care of you.

With affection,
~ Penny

Love – The Greatest Source of Inspiration!

/ Penny L Howe / 19 Comments

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“Some of the greatest things created by man had their inspiration from LOVE!”

Not only that, but probably the most sustaining “glue” we humans have when relating to one another. I know there are many other emotions that can and do effect us in the course of our lives, Both negative and positive. But I believe Love stands alone when it comes to “Why” humans are still around. A sort of moral imperative, if you will.

The need to be loved. The need to love. HUGE … when if it comes right down to it and I do honestly believe the greatest source of inspiration and motivation that we humans will ever have.

I know it’s the reason I always have hope for us, our future and our planet. The “Love” factor will carry us through.

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Hope your week is being good for you, thank you for stopping by,

With affection,

~Penny

FEAR and Freedom – a matter of believing in oneself.

/ Penny L Howe / 11 Comments
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Taking a fearful leap in life is scary, just remember on the other side of fear you’ll find freedom!

Everyone has fears. It is the survival emotion that keeps us alive, so there is no way to be completely without any fear of any kind. But that’s not to say that you should let fear control your life. Fear is a warning to be heeded and or handled as the case may be.

Fear is a very strong emotion. Right up there with Love and Hate is Fear. All of us could make a list of the things we fear (if we were being honest).

How does one control fear? First you recognize it as an emotion. Second you consider the source. Third you place the fear in the right perspective and finally you believe in your ability to deal with the fear you’re experiencing. Ideally in that order. You can even give your fear a priority level. Ask yourself why this particular fear is so large and what you can do to diminish it’s hold on you.

Don’t forget you are as in control of your emotions as you decide to be. It takes practice, of course but very doable. You’re up for it. Tackle a few small fears first.

And remember on the other side of those fears you’ve conquered is a stronger and more independent you!

Hope you are having a good week.

with affection,

~ Penny

Gratitude, in spite of …

/ Penny L Howe / 22 Comments

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Having an especially bad day? Everything’s going wrong and you feel overwhelmed with things and what’s even worse is nobody seems to care. People are being rude and appear to be indifferent to your problems and concerns. You’re thinking, why bother with anything.

With negative thoughts and emotions, you’re feeling sensitive and abused, hurt, angry (pick an emotion that works for you) NOW, RIGHT NOW is the time to be grateful … as silly and unhelpful as that may sound. The thing is it actually works, because how you’re viewing things changes. You see potentials and possibilities you didn’t see when thinking negatively.

When things seem at their very worst – being grateful for what you do have will be the thing that generates positive change. It’s always worked that way, it’s just that most of us don’t notice it.

So go ahead, give it a try. You’ll be surprised … pleasantly surprised.

~ Take care of you and have a wonderful day and better tomorrow,

Penny

My Very Best Advice!

/ Penny L Howe / 9 Comments

 Preparing with positive thoughts and emotional imagining.

When you wake up in the morning do you prepare for the day to come? No … I don’t mean the usual grooming, dressing, breaking fast, and so on. I mean do you prepare for THE DAY – as in … “this is the first day of the rest of your life” day.

Do you think on what you will bring to the day today? Do you imagine the potential for making new discoveries about yourself and others?

Do you see yourself exploring new boundaries by shaking off the old, tried and true, unchanging parts of the past that you find yourself caught up in?

Your emotions are key to letting go the negative that can affect you. Remember what you feel inside are “your emotions” created by “your feelings” about what has been happening in “your life”. The common denominator here is YOU. And what you’re going to do about it.

Do you think about the personal power that you own? This absolute power you have – a power that hovers inside each of us – waiting to burst forth to inspire and influence. Do you think about who you can become? Right now! Just by taking control of your emotions and directing them towards positive thoughts and action.

file000244526190Do you know in your heart-of-hearts that you can and will have a good day and that you will help others to have a good day also? Do you know that you will be there if a friend or stranger has need of you?

Do you prepare for possible adversity by planning to be brave and strong?

Are you preparing yourself for laughter? At yourself, at other’s whimsies, at life’s misadventures and for no reason at all except that it makes you feel good to laugh and hear others laugh around you?

And when you’ve finished preparing for the day … do you begin? To make your life happen?

…If not, than you haven’t prepared for the day at all. It will be someone else’s preparation that you will follow and adhere to: Someone else’s power, someone else’s opinions. And your dreams?

Well, I guess they’ll wait until another day! But I hope not. Because I know and believe inside you is something great just waiting for a signal from you to come out and begin!

Just imagine what happens then!

Penny L Howe, 2014