Being Female ~ Man’s Dichotomy

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The thing is
we (females) struggle with our place, in the order of things, every day. And men struggle with it too.

We understand the biology of things regarding the female body and the emotion of things, regarding falling in love. Also the nurturing of life and the spirituality of things.

It’s the fourth aspect of things where we run into problems. That is to say “perceived vs actual societal roles” related to our own personal desires for ourselves.

And while we females work this out (and we are), it remains difficult and confusing for all of us.

Perhaps more so for men than women. Bottom line here (I love the term “bottom line” because it means we’re  getting to the heart of the issue) I sum up in the follow haiku:

being female
independently human
man’s dichotomy

~ Plh

Thank you for stopping by, have a great weekend, hang in there!

With affection
Penny

FEAR and Freedom – a matter of believing in oneself.

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Taking a fearful leap in life is scary, just remember on the other side of fear you’ll find freedom!

Everyone has fears. It is the survival emotion that keeps us alive, so there is no way to be completely without any fear of any kind. But that’s not to say that you should let fear control your life. Fear is a warning to be heeded and or handled as the case may be.

Fear is a very strong emotion. Right up there with Love and Hate is Fear. All of us could make a list of the things we fear (if we were being honest).

How does one control fear? First you recognize it as an emotion. Second you consider the source. Third you place the fear in the right perspective and finally you believe in your ability to deal with the fear you’re experiencing. Ideally in that order. You can even give your fear a priority level. Ask yourself why this particular fear is so large and what you can do to diminish it’s hold on you.

Don’t forget you are as in control of your emotions as you decide to be. It takes practice, of course but very doable. You’re up for it. Tackle a few small fears first.

And remember on the other side of those fears you’ve conquered is a stronger and more independent you!

Hope you are having a good week.

with affection,

~ Penny

Imagine There’s No Meanness!

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“A child learns through ‘experience with’ and ‘observations of’ the behavior of others.” ~ P

Imagine if being mean was inconceivable.

That no one anywhere on the planet understood the concept, much less had the desire to do anything mean.

Being nice isn’t really all that difficult. It takes far less time to be nice than it does to be mean and when people are nice to you, you want to spend more time around them.

So what does being mean “mean”? To me it’s when one perceives a hurt or cruelty from another. This sound ambiguous, because in a way it is. Many times we hurt others accidentally with poorly considered choices in what and how we say or do something. But if a true understanding of “no meanness” was there and one sensed a hurt, the other would be quick to apologize.

For the most part we have pretty good instincts, however, and know when someone else is being mean and cruel, with intent, through their words and actions.

When we’re mean all those other negative emotions can really take hold (hatred, cruelty, greed, avarice) when we’re nice to each other a different set of emotions rule (tenderness, caring, sharing and love)! The choice should be the one that has universal appeal ~ most certainly for the benefit of all mankind and life on this wonderful planet of ours. Let’s work on it, shall we?

Have a wonderful weekend, filled with love and caring.

~ Penny

Throwback Thursday: Women – Stand your ground! You can do it!

Last fall I published a post about it being your life and you should own it. Well I’m using the video clip I used from that post and a few of the words I said last year, so please read. It’s your life!

Stand your ground. Your life belongs to you. You are the one that breathes in and out of your body every day. You are the one who should be choosing what you plan to do with it, or are doing with it. The struggle may be difficult, but it’s worth it.

In the following video clip from the movie “Aliens” the heroine “Ripley” definitely encounters more things than we can ever imagine having to cope with in our lives by having to fight aliens on another planet.

But there is a point to be made here. When something needs to be done. She does it. She makes the hard decisions she needs to make, in spite of her fears, and makes them count!

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We, women may not be facing aliens but we are still facing the right to be all we can be, as equal human beings. And it’s worth the fight, ladies. Stand up for your rights. It’s your life! Don’t let anyone take that away from you!

How many times in your life do you plan to keep feeling helpless and “less than”? That needs to stop, now. Inside of every single one of you dwells the ancient heart of a warrior, we’ve always been survivors: For our children and our families, now it’s time to make sure we’re surviving for ourselves, too – for the right to be our own person.

It’s time to accept the person that you truly are: the nurturer, the teacher, the guide, the peacemaker, the strength giver, the sustainer, the lover of all mankind and life – time to wake up your “loving warriors heart” because –

“That’s what little girls are really made of … 

and we are long overdue for being acknowledged for this!”

So, stand your ground! You’ll find you’re not alone, I for one, am right there with you!

~ Penny L. Howe

This is my throwback Thursday post, but if I could I’d post it every day until every single female on this planet understood and believed in the truth of my words!

The Abyss of Autonomy

Are you your own person? Congratulations but I caution you to remember the following:

A necessary component of independence will always be the ability to recognize not only one’s right to freedom, but also the acknowledgement (at the same time) of one’s own short-comings; to know that within your sphere of self- determination there also exists a need for others.

An abyss, exists as a deep and bottomless pit and if you were to find yourself within a physical chasm of this kind, there would be no way to remove yourself without the aid from others – and so it is in life. No matter how free, independent and “on our own” you wish to be, you cannot succeed without support.

Autonomy or free will of self, serves no useful function unless it is partnered with the shared need and responsibility of and for others.

Life shared is life well lived. No man or woman is an island, nor should they be. Our need for one another has never been greater than it is today.

Let us build no further gulfs between each other, instead, close the existing  gaps. Let us cultivate and grow within (and in spite of) our differences. There can be no autonomous abyss where free thought is coupled with the partnership of love and understanding among all.

Have an excellent week, with great affection,

~ Penny

She Stands for what makes our Country Great – Freedom! Don’t Let Her Down!

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Freedom – the one word recognized by all peoples who arrive and then stay in the United States of America have in common is Freedom. The Statue of Liberty represents this as does the Statue of Liberty Poem, now an important part of our history. Let us not prove her wrong and lessen who we are as Americans and human beings.

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New Colossus

Not like the brazen giant of Greek fame,

With conquering limbs astride from land to land;

Here at our sea-washed, sunset gates shall stand

A mighty woman with a torch, whose flame

Is the imprisoned lightning, and her name

Mother of Exiles. From her beacon-hand

Glows world-wide welcome’ her mild eyes command

The air-bridged harbor that twin cities frame.

“Keep, ancient lands, your storied pomp!” cries she 

With silent lips. “Give me your tired, your poor,

Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,

The wretched refuse of your teeming shore.

Send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed to me,

I lift my lamp beside the golden door!”

Emma Lazarus. 1848-1887

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 There is a crisis, thousands of children in peril of their very lives (from Central America, not Mexico) and they are coming to our country for safety and refuge. Are we still the caring land of Freedom? Do we give a damn or are we so into ourselves and our rights, ingrained in our wants and our entitlements that we’ve laid aside our souls. I’m so embarrassed and ashamed that everything seems to be related to money or politics.

Have we forgotten to do what’s right and humane and caring and loving? Have we? Most of our ancestors entered this land for the same reasons as these children. There is no difference. There should be none now and even more than that they are children, for God’s Sake!

Show you care,

~ Penny

For more information about this crisis USA TODAY