Everyday Wisdom Hidden in Plain Sight – About You!

 

How many of you begin your day with self depreciating remarks? Or statements about what’s going to go wrong today. Or all the reasons everything bad seems to happen to you. Or perhaps you say to yourself, “why bother to try? This person or that person is going to ruin my day!”

These type of thoughts and statements become self fulfilling the more you repeat them. You send a signal to your brain that says you can’t win, you can’t overcome and … that you think of yourself or your situation as a losing one.

First rule of being happy much less successful is to believe in yourself. Not because you’re going to go out tomorrow and conquer the world, but because where you are, right this minute is only temporary and you’re a good person who can ‘step by step’ move forward in a positive way, because you know you can. You believe in you.

What really, really helps is to not tell yourself, ahead of time, why you can’t do something. Or blame a situation or a person for problems and circumstances. We all feel insecure and worried, even fearful at times. This is normal but it shouldn’t stop us from accomplishing our goals.

 So today is a good day to start saying those self fulfilling things that support what you want to do. Things like “Today I’m going to get my tasks done regardless of what comes my way.” Or “I’m not going to let another person’s negative attitude or perhaps even rude bullying behavior affect me”. Or “Today I believe in me and someway, somehow I will do those things I’d planned to do.”

You positively reinforce your own mindset (thinking patterns of behavior) when your thoughts, words and action have a “can do” mentality. It will strengthen your resolve as well.

Try it. You’ll discover it really works. And by repeating daily, this can make a significant difference between success and failure. Remember you’ve only failed when you stop! Every other thing that goes wrong is just a temporary disappointment and a part of your ongoing learning experience.

 

Do not ever believe you are incapable or undeserving of the enrichment and fulfillment of happiness, love and creative endeavor. You are. We all are.

Life’s pathways may vary during our adventures in life. But happiness is yours for the having, love is yours for the giving/receiving and creativity “with achievement” are yours for the doing. Yours for the believing that this is so.

Because it’s true. Believe in you, never doubt even on the most negative of days. Always remember – You make it happen because …

#YouGoOn.

Thank you. Have a great weekend ahead and take care of you.

With sincere affection,

~Penny

Molecules of Poetry ~ A Parallel Peripheral 

“Sometimes I miss it – the beauty of a moment ~ which then moves on in stealthy fashion.

Analogous vibrating molecules of the poetry of a beautiful passing moment, shifting from here and now to a parallel peripheral to become cosmic music resonating through hyper space perhaps escaping to one of the eleven dimensions of which theoretical physicists speculate.

Meanwhile in this universe, the temporary abode where I reside, vision and senses once again caught up in deluded preoccupation with just plain regular things. Known entities with known outcomes being naught but what they always are …

. . . distractions!

Thus in that moment of sheer wonder, the perfect and spontaneous specialness of a beautiful moment dissipates and this new potential entry into the poetry of my life will not be written or experienced by me, but heard for ever more somewhere out there in the Universal Collective Consciousness. But then it’s all relative, isn’t it. Sigh.” Penny L. Howe, 2016

Love, Laughter, Strawberries and Hugs

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… These are a few of my favorite things.

And you! Definitely you. And the aftermath of a rainshower when rainbows appear, birds sing and the fragrance of life bursts forth.

And giggles, I love little children giggling – so totally infectious. And puppies and kittens (goes without saying I guess). Flowers, I simple love flowers, all kinds and strawberries still on the vine, red, sweet and just waiting to be picked and popped into my waiting mouthwatering mouth.

And good news. Any good news, doesn’t matter what. And music where people spontaneously sing along, because we can’t help ourselves. How great is that?

There are just too many things to name when it comes to favorite things.

But then it seems to me even on the hardest of days remembering our favorite things that make us happy (and grateful) is an absolutely wonderful way to go on!

Take care of you.
With love and affection,
~ Penny

Friendship … A Great Elixir for Happiness!

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“The thing about shared friendships is the absolute love that flows from within and without one’s own heart. No exceptions. It just is.” ~ Plh

*Friendship, the ties that bind us ~ one to another ~ cannot be overstated. Every single one of us needs friends. Every single one of us needs to be a friend – to as many as is feasible. At a distance or close up, it makes not a difference. A friend is a friend is a friend.

Being a true friend is caring, encouraging, making a difference – as you can – where it counts. And there is always room in our hearts for another friend, always.

But I have no friends“, you say. Then go help someone in need. Step out of your own, self imposed but lonely, comfort zone. Help several someones, but help because you want to. Set no conditions, no requirements and you’ll discover friendship along the way.

And as friends come along, nurture these relationships. Share, care and be there! Some will become true friendships.

Know there are those who will use your friendship by taking advantage of your good will. Do not be discouraged for they do not really understand.

Help others as you can with good intent. They will be the ones who decide the direction your friendship will take.

Always remember … “a friend in need is a friend indeed” – Be there!

*Also an additional bonus: It greatly increases the potential for giving and receiving caring hugs! And today hugs are needed more than ever!

I had written this post a year ago and decided to share it once again (with a few changes). Thanks for stopping by, hoping your weekend is going well for you.

With affection,
~ Penny

Rethinking Your Thinking – for happiness, health and every other thing.

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Many of us are struggling with life issues: Health, setting goals, personal relationships, feeling fulfilled as a human being. What has helped me each day is to rethink how I think about those things in my life.

What I’ve recognized is that to feel fulfilled in my own life, I’m the one that decides what has to happen first. In other words if I am the one that decides whether to be happy each day then I need to be happy – just because I can control my thoughts and feelings – it’s up to me.

The same goes with health, setting goals in your life and yes actually figuring out how to support your family. I struggled for years as a single parent raising my children (and I had severe health issues from time to time). What I realize now is that I accidentally made life much harder on myself by worrying, adding unnecessary stress to the various situations that occurred and whether you believe me or not, how you think about where you are right now in your life determines how it will continue to go. When you take positive control over your own internal thoughts & negative emotions an amazingly change will take place.

At least the view from my eyes indicates this to be true. But you decide. As I said it’s up to each of us.

My personal daily mantra:

“Today I will unemotionally  review my life, my values and my true needs and then make  intentional decisions, bringing about a positive change and an immediate improvement to my attitude and total well-being … after all I am in charge of me.” ~ Plh

Thanks for stopping by. I hope your first week in this new year has started off well for you.

With Affection,

~ Penny

A Happy Soul and Lost Innocence!

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Within each human is a happy soul. Fragile, yes, but also amazingly strong – as is all existing life force.

Therefore even though we’re all grown up inside it’s a good thing for us to remember to let it out to sing and dance, for innocence is never truly lost.

Just think on all the wonderful unfolding magic and mysteries happening around us each and every day!

Open your heart and embrace your happy soul. It wants you to!

~ Penny

Wake Up Because You Are …

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wake up!


You … are your own reality.
  You … are your own destiny.
You … are your own future.

Inside of you is more capability than you can possibly imagine just waiting for you to discover.

So today and all of your tomorrows embrace and love fiercely who you are because you truly are one amazing and awesome person (just in case you didn’t already know this).

I’ll add one more important caveat.
YOU … YOU MAKE IT HAPPEN!

Take care of you.

All my love,
~ Penny

Collecting Smiles!

From The Why About This Archives, one of my all time favorite posts. I decided to share it again with you. I hope you enjoy and start collecting smiles yourself. Such a feel good thing to do:

Emma’s Perfect “Mona Lisa” Smile!

“Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

I collected 47 smiles today. It wasn’t my intention. Smiles weren’t even on my mind. I wonder why that is? Of all the things we can do and give freely, a smile must take center stage – don’t you think? A smile always brightens the day.

It all started while I was sitting on a park bench this afternoon viewing the river; actually I had been looking up at clouds. They were particularly lovely today. A young girl maybe 6 years old was passing me on a nearby pathway, along with other people.

As it was such a beautiful day, there were many there enjoying the park. This little girl ran almost all the way by me when she turned her head and flashed me a radiant smile. “Hi” she said. Just the one word hi, with a smile. A big, sincere and radiant smile. “Well hi,” I replied, smiling back. My smile every bit as large as hers.

And then it started. The smile collecting. I noticed an elderly couple playing with their grandchildren, all with big smiles when they looked over at me. I smiled back.

A man came by walking his large black Labrador. I told him he had a lovely dog. He gave me a huge smile in return. I didn’t get a smile from the Lab but I did get a very friendly tail wag. And so it went.

Later on in the day while at the store waiting in line to check out I just couldn’t keep the smile off my face. My memory from the park had stayed with me. The line was long but I found myself smiling at the other people in a friendly “we’re all waiting here” kind of way and guess what? They all smiled back. One of them, an older gentleman, looked a little confused about why, but he smiled too!

And so it went throughout the remainder of the day. I kept collecting smiles. It was great. This evening as I sat reflecting, I decided today had not been much different than most days but somehow it just seemed friendlier, nicer, warmer. I found myself smiling from the day’s memories and collected another smile.

Have a great weekend, ideally one filled with smiles, yours and those you interact with … an excellent thing to do, I think!

All my love,

~ Penny

In Defense of … YOU!!! (You Are Loved!)

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Wow. So this is our life! Who knew? I’d like to say I’m speechless regarding everything that happens every day, every where, but of course I’m writing this on behalf of you so I’m not speechless. Perhaps overwhelmed would be a more appropriate term. Although even this word fails to fully express the emotions and thoughts each of us everywhere on this amazing planet are experiencing right now.

So where to begin? Firstly (yes I know it’s not really a word) do you know how incredibly awesome you are? A truth. Life isn’t easy, on the best of days we each have challenges to be faced. Some days we do really well, other days not so much. But this isn’t what’s truly important. What is important is the beautiful glow shining from within your ageless heart. You’re unique. There is only one made exactly like you so those vibratory beats coming from your heart are specific to you. Your beautiful music with it’s very own harmonizing sound.

Know this … at the same time your heart is beating you are connected to and harmonizing with every other unique living thing on our planet. How incredible is that? But it’s also a truth (scientifically speaking from a universal level).  And with the beating of your heart you share your very being (whether you are aware of it or not).

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You aren’t ever alone, especially during those times when you’ve convinced yourself you are. You aren’t unloved even on those days when you’re positive it is so. You are loved. You can feel the love if you relax, let go of preconceived, programmed ideologies that proliferate in our society today. Inside your consciousness is a memory of togetherness.

The thing is, our planet is alive and you and I are an intrinsic part of the whole. No less than any other living entity. We really do share much in common. Truly. Go beyond the words of things. Go beyond the negative thoughts, deeds and actions of some. Go beyond the “Social Media Perspective”, the “Commercialization & falsity or facade of life”, Go beyond your personal negative memories, your actions you perceive as failures, your doubts and fears of today and tomorrow. These are all just temporary things. The true love that is found in your heart of  just being is permanent  AND the whole of this eternal permanence is made up of life, all lifeincluding you.

We are all connected. You are loved and regarded in a wondrous manner. Believe this is so because it is a truth. The painful experiences we have are but a part of life’s journey. It’s time to remember how glorious you are, to be happy with the wonder of this … to find happiness from within and then share without.

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The world is changing, have you noticed? And it’s time to know what is true. It’s time to believe in you! I do! 

All my love, always,

~ Penny