Reduce Your Stress Now – Move your body as a child does!

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAThere was certainly a pretty universal agreement from comments, in my last post, that words can hurt, and too many today aren’t careful with the way they use their words.

And we’re not happy about it either. In fact we can become quite stressed over it.

So this post is to help you quickly and easily get rid of some of the stress you feel when you’re a party to hurtful, mean, and untrue words, both spoken and written.

Did you know your body tightens up, automatically when you’re emotionally stressed. A fact. Beginning with the muscles in your neck and shoulders and face and your tummy. The result is you’ve taken an emotional stress and turned it into a physical stress as well. So right now, focus only on the physicality of the stress, breath really deeply – from your gut, think about all your muscles relaxing themselves.

Not working? Maybe just a little, but probably not very much, because you’re allfile000496683546 “grown up”. Once that stress settles in, it’s going to stay with you in your tensed up body. Why?

Because you’ve gotten used to being “mature” and keeping those bad feelings inside of you. I want you to think about children.

Think about what they do instinctively when they’re upset. They scream and cry, contort their faces, wave their hands, run around. It works so well that in a little while they are ‘all better’, because they got rid of the stress they were feeling emotionally by becoming physical, they let it out.

We grow up being told to be mature and “responsible acting” adults. We are told that we can learn to hold those feelings inside and (most of us) do that. We keep the hurt, pain, anger, disappoint inside and (it festers) presto, our bodies aren’t well either. No leap of faith to figure that one out, is there?

So be a kid for awhile. (In the privacy of your room at home, somewhere you are most comfortable and able to express yourself and move your body.) Allow those emotions to come out! Yell, be very vocal with your words, loud and clear, express those feelings, contort your face, use your arms and legs, the greater the physical movement, the better. You’re getting those pent up emotions out of your system and your body, exactly like a child does. And it is very healthy.

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Also, interestingly enough, not only will your stress be less, but you’ll have more energy (like a child) or you’ll be more relaxed and in a restful state.

Either one is a good place to be after relieving the stress of the day. Your body, mind and spirit, will all thank you!

Have a relaxing evening, restful night and happy and energetic tomorrow!

~ Penny

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I wish you could touch me now …

I am vulnerable because of loving so pure and deeply, my walls of protection cannot keep my desire for you at bay.

and so … I wish you could touch me now. Not my heart, you’ve touched me there too deeply, it’s still bruised and bleeding. But my body still hungers for you.

I need your touch …

I desire the warmth of your caress, the closeness of your body, the physical contact of … you!

I wish you could touch me now …

… even as I understand morning light will illuminate the true reality of our relationship. I know for all your tender caring words, you would be gone and my loving soul will still be bruised … for all your promises said in the moonlight hours of sensual need and gratification. I know all this.

But the longing remains so …

I still wish you could touch me now.

I’ll always have our memories of the night time to sustain me, in daylight hours spent alone, reflecting on why you said one thing and did another. Belittling my efforts instead of supporting them, and yet still I love you. And wish you to be happy.

I am pleased to hear you are where you’ve wanted to be for so long. I am happy for you. Resigned, accepting and aware of some of the hard learned lessons of life, when one exposes one’s soul during love.

But now in these evening hours I dream of you touching me again, filling my sensual needs. Even, as reality has come full circle and comprehension of the cruelty of those who love and those who take in the guise of love, is complete.

Touch me … but let it be only the physical, my bruised soul cannot bear the mockery of a pretense at true love (yours were personal and emotional needs for yourself. I don’t believe you really thought of my needs – perhaps as an afterthought), but my body does respond to your loving body. So in that, there is truth.

I wish you could touch me. I’m prepared now for tomorrow … it hurts, but I understand. With all the love in my heart that I give so freely, I was so sure someone might love me the way I loved them in return … it seems I was mistaken!

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Most definitely an unrequited love piece here. Not to worry, my next fictional piece is part two of adventure and excitement. Dry your tears and stay tuned for fun! Our fictional young lady in the piece above (p.s.- she’s the one trapped in the tunnel https://thewhyaboutthis.com/2013/07/22/alastairs-photo-fiction-the-tunnel-and-survival/ , although brokenhearted, she’s about to kick some serious a..!) More to come!

~ Penny

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The human vessel ~ the contents within

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We are human beings, carrying so many things inside ourselves as we travel along the various pathways of our lives. Each of us is a vessel. Filled with all manner of thoughts, wishes, hopes, dreams, experiences, memories. The essence that will shape us and those around us during our travels.

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Each vessel has a unique shape. Yet, it is only an outer shape formed to hold the contents within. And while the outer shape of this, our human vessel, may change with the years, it is the contents of the vessel that are of importance.

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Experience teaches us many things. What we decide as a result of our personal experiences will determine the nature of the contents inside – what we ultimately decide to fill our own vessels with: Courage, Empathy, Good Will, Love, Joy, Hope or Duplicity, Disappointment, Resignation, Hate, Fear, Despair, hopelessness.

While we are on this planet and alive, our vessels become a reflection of our vessel’s contents.

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Most of us begin our live’s with Joy and Love. Not all, but most. I’ve found it interesting however that those who face adversity squarely in the face and emerge triumphant, bone weary often, but still a survivor, do tend to fill up their human vessel with so much love and courage that they spend much of the rest of their lives sharing these contents with others.

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And I’ve found it to be inversely true. Those who have suffered disappointments but chose not to rise above their individual misfortunes, tend to go through life with their vessels harboring ill will, blame, and discontent for their own perceived shortcomings. They feel the need to bring people down to a hurtful level as indeed they themselves are feeling from the contents they’ve chosen to fill their vessels with. The appearance of their vessel may appear lovely but the contents are not.

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The contents of our human vessels are so very precious. They decide our level of happiness, the joy we are capable of receiving and giving in any given day.

Be very careful how you fill your own vessel.

It’s contents are the most important thing in your life. And to the lives of those you love and who love you.

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Not the appearance of the vessel that matters but what’s inside!

~ Penny

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