Do You Believe In You … Well you should!

This isn’t about faith or spirituality. It’s about your human spirit buried deep inside, just waiting to be recognized.

In life there are many reasons to keep going, to make a difference, to be successful, to hope and care, but they all pale besides the most obvious reason of all …

… you must believe in “Self”  first. Really believe that you have a personal worth, a value in and of itself.

The starting point from which you grow.

Without recognizing your own singular value as a human being, it is guaranteed that the roads you travel will be less smooth, the terrain much rockier, the slopes much steeper.

But, when you believe in you, you become a guide for yourself

  • you can plan for a better day, a better outcome.
  • you gain strength, acquiring fortitude to help face life’s hard challenges. It doesn’t give you more capability, but will endow you with added courage when needed.
  • you hold the fundamental key, the most important belief you can have as an essential, living and functioning human being – that of your own unique value and worth.

It’s not easy. It does seem that too often, we make mistakes, fail, hesitate, choose poorly and so forth. These are life experiences – better known as life’s learning lessons because we do learn through our errors. The thing to remember is to have the courage to get up and keep going.

And …

trust me on this one …

it’s a lot easier to get back up when you believe you can do it!

Take it from one who knows,

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“The single most important person to believe in is yourself … always!”

~  Penny L Howe

Your POV – The Lens From Which You View – and why it matters!

The Lens we view from

Did you know that the “HOW” you think about a thing can make a huge difference in your life and to those around you. No, seriously this is true.

I’m referring, not so much, about WHAT you’re actually thinking or doing, but the process behind the WHY you’re thinking or acting in a certain way. How you’reseeing things happen to and around you.

And, It affects your health, big time. It affects your ability to make wise choices for yourself and those you care about too. Let’s see how this happens.

It all has to do with the nature of your focus, the actually starting point! Depending on your education and personal experience, you have a certain way of focusing/viewing  a variety of things (assimilating new information) . That’s where your POV begins, for even as you take in new information, your preformed ideas and thoughts (achieved from already existing memories of experiences and life’s learning lessons) will be the true lens from which you will view new and different things.

With me so far? So even before you really understand some new change occurring, your mind is calling up what you think you already know and deciding how you are going to feel about it. The true beginning of your focus and personal Point of View.

If there is a negative experience associated with what you are viewing or experiencing, then your current POV is going to incorporate this negative feeling, coloring your perception of current events, (the happening in the now of things) based on your very emotional memory from the past. Likewise the reverse is true with positive learning lessons. In other words you’ve already decided, to a degree, how you may feel about something new before you have a complete understanding of what it’s all about. So in effect you will not be truly viewing things as they actually are.

The key to having a healthy point of view is by expanding your focus slightly to see through known experiences (your personal lens), making this only a place to begin – for moving beyond. A “lens” that can be adjusted. Innovation occurs at this level of view. Increased comfort level begins here too.

What all this means is that the more comfortable you are within yourself and how (the manner in which) you view a thing ultimately gives your POV a healthier balance, a better sense of being in control of yourself and events unfolding around you, and of course this affects your overall health along with those you connect with.

Think about it!  As always the view from your eyes stays unique to you, how healthy it will be therefore also rests with you.

View wisely my friend, and have an excellent week ahead!

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With sincere affection to all my world wide friends, those I know and those I’ve yet to meet,

~ Penny

Peaceful Contemplation of Being Overwhelmed!

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How’s it going?

The photo says it all.

Life can be so darn overwhelming you really don’t know what to do about it. So you do nothing except think and stew and worry and wonder about THE WHY ABOUT THIS!

Is this a good thing or a bad thing? Actually its neither. It’s you experiencing “life in action” thing! Sometimes you can control what happens. But sometimes control slips away when the unexpected occurs. What matters is how you’re going to handle your own feelings!

You can rage about the “unfairness” except life has never been based on beingalone fair. A truth. You can pout and mope about the “why me … of it all”, except in all probability there are worse things happening to other people, everywhere. You just aren’t aware of them. Well, if those things don’t help – and they don’t – what is there left to do?

Summing it all up there’s one thing you can still do. It’s called the responsibility factor … that’s the really tough one. To get out of the river of being overwhelmed, the ocean of misery and so on you have to take action yourself. Be responsible for your own actions and attitude. Bring about the change you need … right now … make it happen … Go ahead … you can do it!

I’m cheering you on!

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lonely by Penny L Howe, 2013

(yes the first two pictures are of me sitting in the Columbia river on a bench. A few of you have seen these pictures before. They’re from a little over a year ago. The river was flooding (obviously) and I decided to have a few pictures taken. It was spring and the water was melted snow thaw and frigidly cold. Took quite awhile to warm up my feet and legs, but still … got great shots!) 🙂

~ In the river of life, swim, wind surf, paddle your kayak, row your boat, do what ever it takes to keep your head above water! You make it happen. You do!

~ Penny

Today’s Road – the one to travel on!

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The road you are traveling should always be today’s road.
Yesterday is gone and tomorrow we are shaping as we go forward.
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“Leave regrets in yesterday,
or you will find yourself on a road
with no tomorrow to look forward to!”
 
~ Penny L Howe, 2013

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If you look off to your right of this post you will see an image saying A Penny For Your Thoughts. A while back I began a blog for inspirational quotes, mostly for myself, but I’ve decided to share. The one you just read was taken from there. For more inspirational quotes, just click on the image – it’s free, and you don’t even need to comment, just hopefully be inspired or enjoy!

Thank you,

~ Penny

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… Ease on down!

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When life comes at you hard and heavy, ease – on – down!

When there’s just too much to carry on, ease – on – down!

When burden’s seem to overflow and heart is weary too

Stop right now, retabulate – there’s something you can do:

Ease on down!

Reset your pace, remove the frown.
Be carefree, be as a clown.
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Rethink, redo, recapture,
the simple joys of life!
Don’t just be a survivor
Your life full up with strife.
 
move a little slower, simplify your tasks
Live one day at a time, it’s not too much to ask!
And then most importantly
please … ease on down!
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Life is a never ending experience. Do take the time to enjoy.

a rose

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If there are no flowers to stop and smell … then go find some, now!

Today! Do it!

Have a great weekend and Happy Mother’s Day too!

with much affection,

~ Penny

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Perspective – the view from your eyes

Experiencing Life

The simple truth is that your life experiences change your perspective on how you look at things.

Sometimes drastically! Your choice to learn, gain wisdom and move on or be caught up in the past with memories of unfortunate happenings that will prevent you from going forward.

The Secret of Life – Living it!

Innocence

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Thank you for stopping by, have a great weekend, Penny

Copyright © 2012 by Penny l Howe

A young boys words

This is Jack. He’s Emma’s older brother. At the start of the weekend of his 10th upcoming birthday he, his dad and mom were busily redoing his bedroom in preparation for his birthday party to be shared by family and friends. He was very excited and really looking forward to it.

Jack and his dad had just finished putting up the new shelves on the walls in his room when his dad got a call from someone. They needed his help to move a larger size aquarium from their home. As always his dad (a generous and kind man) said he’d be right over. Jack, Emma, Jordan and their mom never saw him again.Just a few blocks away he was struck and killed by a meth using driver who failed to yield.

When I wrote “Ethereal Life” and spoke of …in a heartbeat it can be gone… it was true and extremely personal. Just a few days ago Jack had picked the puff ball and was demonstrating to me how quickly it could be blown away, that was when I got the inspiration to write the poem.

I have watched this family struggle for the past two years since the most devastating day of their life.

In Jack’s case it was particularily hard. It happened during what would have been a celebration of his birthday. Jack is a very special boy. He is highly sensitive, he see’s most things in black and white. Borderline Aspergers, intellectually off the charts, but in a few areas, emotionally immature. Prior to his dad’s death he was well on his way to overcoming many of the characteristics common to his type of personality. After his fathers death there was a reversal, but slowly he’s progressing forward again.

On the day of his dad’s eulogy, the family’s church was packed with people. Hundreds. His dad had been well loved and admired in the community for his many acts of kindness and giving. The pastor standing in the front of the gathering had asked all those with a special memory of this man to stand and share. Many did, one after another. Towards the end the pastor asked if there was anyone else who wished to share.

And then amazingly, young Jack who is not an outgoing boy at all, solemnly stood up and turned to the very large group of gathered family & friends and stated … I have some things to share about my dad. And then the most heart breaking, soul wrenching words came forth from him. He held himself upright and spoke quietly and with dignity about the dad he knew and loved.

He spoke of his love and about all the things he would miss and why he loved him so much. In closing he said he was glad his dad was in heaven but he was really going to miss him. Then he quietly said “that’s all” and sat down. The silence in the large filled room that day was broken by the sound of many – crying  tears of sadness over Jack’s earnest young words.

As I said Jack is very special. He’s introspective about people & life. If you’ve been following my blog you met his sister Emma recently when she posted a blog of her own. Jack watched and the other day he approached me and asked if he could post a blog too. Of course I said yes. For him to reach out and share is a sign of some very good things happening in his mind.

For those of you who have commented on Emma’s Post, she is most grateful and I thank you. In a little while soon I will post Jack’s first blog. He is as excited about it as I am for him and his wanting to reaching out to others. I will be most appreciative of all who read this today if you can take just a few minutes to come back, read and comment to him when Jack’s Post appears. Again thank you.