Being Female ~ Man’s Dichotomy


The thing is
we (females) struggle with our place, in the order of things, every day. And men struggle with it too.

We understand the biology of things regarding the female body and the emotion of things, regarding falling in love. Also the nurturing of life and the spirituality of things.

It’s the fourth aspect of things where we run into problems. That is to say “perceived vs actual societal roles” related to our own personal desires for ourselves.

And while we females work this out (and we are), it remains difficult and confusing for all of us.

Perhaps more so for men than women. Bottom line here (I love the term “bottom line” because it means we’re  getting to the heart of the issue) I sum up in the follow haiku:

being female
independently human
man’s dichotomy

~ Plh

Thank you for stopping by, have a great weekend, hang in there!

With affection

Progress Never Sleeps ~ Haibun for Yesterday!

The Oil Lamp …

standing upright much as a soldier on parade. The base, cleaned and refilled, silver burner polished to gleaming brightness. The wick trimmed, now standing in attention. Glass chimney thoroughly scrubbed so not one single speck of soot mars the surface.

The oil lamp stands on the table in a modest home.  Now to be found in many homes. At the ready for the approaching night when once again it will light the way from darkness to light  for those to appreciate man’s great progress.


yesterday’s progress
most wondrous thing to behold
now it never sleeps


“Sometimes progress moves too fast for us mere mortals to keep pace in the endless nights of change.” Penny L Howe


Thanks for stopping by, I hope you have an excellent week. Try not to burn too much midnight oil, my friends … and remember to take care of you!

With affection,

~ Penny

For all the Women of the World


This was written for all women of the world and where I see the future and their role. The title is “She and They”. I think most women everywhere will recognize the meaning of this.

What is interesting – I wrote this piece 22 years ago, about the future. Interesting huh!


SHE seemed to stand apart from the others in the room, an essence of wisdom radiating from her being.

THEY knew she was strong and feared for their own – futures. Futures, laid out in neat little orderly patterns and packages so many years ago – patterns of steps, packages of goals, always in line, always the same.

THEY had structured their lives so they fit the system, the sadly eroding system which they had caused but were just beginning to notice … so intent upon steps towards goals, steps toward goals …

THEY had felt secure in all this sameness … until SHE came. SHE who had never followed sameness, or structure, no not HER.

THEY knew of her; a maverick, an independent, separate from, different, unique.

SHE was in her element, secure in her beliefs.

HER supporters and followers (many) gathering about her; shoring up her vast internal strength, wiping out the last small remnant of lingering doubt and … Fear?

Ah yes, FEAR.

Years, upon years, upon years – stumbles, slips and falls. Always, seeming to slide backwards, further and further, a plethora of never ending blind alleys, wrong turns, and failures.

SHE knows of Fear, its moods and personality.

Cause and Effect – she’s lived it and learned it, paying her price again and again through a loss of harmony, always seemingly out of step.

Now, with the coming of CHANGE

SHE blends as one; in tune, in time, not a step out of beat. Effortlessly she knows which way to turn, how to proceed.

THEY can only stand frozen huddled around themselves wondering and worrying about their futures.

And SHE, a survivor to her past, stands poised on the brink of tomorrow, a mantle of rightness and harmony settling about her. Her future and THE future – finally one and the same.

Penny L Howe, December, 1990

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Do I have strong feelings on this subject? Yes, yes I do. Today more women are educated, reaching out and making a difference for themselves and their families. And they are more aware than ever, not only of the plight of their sisters in some of the countries around the world, but of the planet itself. And they are doing something about it! So do I mean the words I wrote 22 years ago? Absolutely. Is it coming true? Absolutely. Are women amazing? Absolutely!

Thank you for stopping by my friends, bless you all!

Copyright © 2012 by Penny l Howe