It’s Okay to Be What You Are: Human

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It is okay to be human and it’s okay to make mistakes. It’s also okay to say “I made a mistake”. It’s okay to fail. And okay to say the wrong thing at the wrong time; to make an error of judgement; to let someone down you care about; to be fearful at times; to be stressed out; to worry about today and or/tomorrow; to feel guilt/anger/disappointment/hurt over something from yesterday. It’s okay to feel all these things because you’re/we’re human.

Every single one of our species on the planet is human. Before we’re anything else we are born as human beings. We ALL share this commonality. Everything else, we become aware of or learn about afterwards – Our race – Our ethnic background – Our belief systems. Our likes, dislikes and so forth.

The most important thing is while we’re (all of us) busy being human, each of us is unique. This is important to remember. We will, as we grow, have individualized strengths and weaknesses specific to our background and experiences. Very important to remember in the scheme of everyday life because this is why we make mistakes, each to his or her own, according to our particular learning curve and life adventures.

Therefore, to live one’s life it is imperative to recognize our own humanness and accept that things will go wrong and sometimes it is because of something we did or didn’t do. Accepting it and moving on is the best way to be okay with yourself.

There are many stressful things happening in the world today and I doubt it is going to improve any time in the near future. But how you feel, first about yourself and then about others will help you to guide yourself through this troubling time period. You’ll find you can make better choices for yourself and those you care about if you remember you’re human (and all the inherent weakness that comes along with). Armed with this perspective and acceptance, you will be able to expand the control you have within your own environment.

It’s that simple, really. The input from others and how you relate to them begins with recognizing that you are first and foremost a human being (as are they) and it’s okay to not be perfect. To be different. To be your own person. Respecting yourself goes along with this and towards others respecting you as well. How you relate to yourself is how others will relate to you and reaching your own goals will depend on just how well you treat yourself first.

Recognize and accept that you may not always get things right but … it doesn’t make you any less of a person or human being. You’re still you. You’re still important, whether making mistakes or not and you always have the value of being your own unique person … that’s what really matters most. To you and everyone else.

Thanks for stopping by, I wish you well.

With great affection,

Penny

It Isn’t Easy, But It Is Simple

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LifeI refer to life here. Complicated complex life, except it really isn’t, or it doesn’t need to be. We make it so with our thoughts, actions and attitudes.

There are many homilies and quotes referencing this too. “Simple is as simple does” or the most well known “K.I.S.S.” but we don’t “keep it simple“. We run around complicating the crap out of everything.

So tomorrow or better yet today … right this minute … think of how you can uncomplicate your life, and a good place to begin is with your over-used, overworked emotions. They’d love a little relief from the stress of it all.

As it is now, your mind will transfer your emotional stress overload to various parts of your body, creating even more interesting and uncomfortable complications …

all of which are unnecessary. Simplify! Let go of that which is not really important. You’ll be pleasantly surprised with the results. I promise.

Have a wonderful week ahead and remember to take care of you.

With affection,
~ Penny

Addressing the STRESS of Distress!

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Here it is – the key to all of your problems. Pick it up and use it. Address that which is distressing you so intensely that your stress levels are skyrocketing! Look directly at what appears to be so overwhelming to you and confront it!

Your stress levels will not be reduced until you focus on and handle what you currently find so emotionally difficult to tackle! And you can do it!

It is not impossible! Hard, yes! Sometimes painfully so, but still doable and definitely necessary, if you want to improve the current conditions in your life. It begins with attitude – specifically speaking – yours!

Perspective plays a role in controlling emotions. The more negative and fearful your emotions, the less control you will have making positive and constructive decisions. In turn, this leads to higher stress levels. I speak an absolute truth here.

“I just can’t do it,” you say. And I say you can.  Put your mind to it! Take back your life! Your life should never evolve around emotions that are out of control.

Take charge of you. Make it happen!

Negative emotions are your enemy they sneak in and convince you of everything that’s wrong. So it’s up to you to find some positive emotions. They’re right there, inside of you too! Some really good stuff just waiting to come out and shore up the weak emotional parts of your mind.

Never forget – your emotions are yours to control, not the other way around.

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So now’s the time. Go make things happen in your life. It’s the key to making positive things happen and You Can Do It! Address the Stress. You’ll feel lots better for the doing!

Have a less stressful week ahead – much love to you all!

~ Penny

Sometimes, to get past where you are – the best thing to do is BE CREATIVE!

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A time to be creative is during the days (weekends) when (even) those who care so deeply, feel a sense of helplessness and of being overwhelmed with events happening in our lives and the world, where there is so much work to be done to make things better.

This weekend, take a short break. Be creative and do something fulfilling and relaxing. Monday is Veterans day, an excellent day to spend, being with and, remembering those who have given so much for us and our country.

Be appreciative and thankful and embrace your life! Spend some time being creative. Let your talent take you to a place that makes you feel better about you! Sometimes, when you feel overwhelmed this is a very good thing to do!

~ Penny

What do you believe in – And does your body believe you?

I truly believe there is a reason, I don’t have Crohn’s disease anymore. (and haven’t for 20+ years, and I was told “like cancer”, it is always there in the cells somewhere, or the capability of it reoccurring after my first surgery) I struggled with this disease for 20 years (awful problems, hospitalized more times than I care to recall – seemingly never ending) until I woke up one morning and just said … “No!”
Now I understand – that on that day, all four areas of the parts of my brain were in alignment (communication with each other) in that moment. So my “No” came equally from my emotion center, my cognitive center, my spiritual (belief system – whatever that may be for each of us) center, and my subconscious bodily activity center.
In other words, the chemical instructions via our neural pathways to the brain from each of those areas of activity sent the strongest message ever to my body that it could heal itself. And it did.
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This could be perhaps, a possible explanation for those who survive the trauma of illness or life experiences. Not mystical voodoo, just all parts of ‘your being’ decided it can “fix” what needs to be fixed (remember we ‘mostly’ only use a small fraction of our brains total capability.
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These are only my own personal thoughts being shared here, based on the history of my health but I’ve come to call this occurrence “The Alignment of our Being”. Usually we (Our conscious self) are at odds with one or more of these  interactive mental activities going on each day.
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Memories, thoughts and actions center around those 4 centers of our being. If I look and feel 20 years younger, it’s because I sincerely feel 20 years younger and believe it, so my body does too, and acts on that belief. And of course it’s a no brainer that healthy living, lifestyle, and reducing the stress of the day just makes things even better.
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So that’s it, give my  “Alignment of Being” idea some thought.
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(The above are just a few ideas I shared in an email recently with a friend. I decided to pass it on to you too … for your consideration!)
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All my best to you, have a great day today!
 ~ Penny
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Pause … breath in, breath out

Okay?

Feel better?

If not repeat!

When life is too much – of too much,

it’s probably because

its too much of too much!

So what are you going to do about it?

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I’m thinking it’s time for a break. Ease up on things. relax, wind down.

It’s your life we’re talking here. How about being good to yourself

… for a change!

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“Live in the moment my friends
so when those good moments happen
you’re ready to enjoy them!”
~ Penny L Howe, 2013
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Yes, for those of you who have started to follow A Penny for your thoughts this quote was taken from today’s post. I guess I really wanted to make a point to as many as possible about our need to relax a little bit more in our too busy daily lives! I hope the point was made, be good to you – you’re worth it. Going crazy from living an insane pace isn’t.

Penny,

Penny L Howe