Part 1 -The False Complacency of Obsolescence – What we really NEED!

By RyanMBevan

Civilization   “Little boxes on the hillside … little boxes made of ticky tacky … little boxes on the hillside and they all look just the same. There are green ones and …” (from the song Little Boxes by Malvina Reynolds)

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Obsolescence, the meaning – the state of being which occurs when an object, service, or practice is no longer wanted even though it may be in good working order. (So we throw away just about everything for the new improved, better than, bigger than, and so on.)

Complacency, the meaning – going along with the status quo. Being satisfied with how things are and not wanting to try to make them better.

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We do that, you know, most of us go along with the status quo in our society, a sort of false complacency about things, that is until we feel personally affected. We may make noises and be upset but usually not enough to actually do something that will affect change.

And the true sadness here is that this false complacency (because we really aren’t contented with things at all) extends to the obsolescence not just with products or services but it has been expanded (at great expense to all of us) to now include people, animals, our environment and a way of life as throwaways.

This scary indifference where the end justifies the means is destroying some of the best of who we are as people. And part of that is the recognition of individual self worth and value. We don’t feel loved. Our greatest need as a result of the false complacency of obsolescence (or the prevailing mentality that it’s okay to keep throwing things away) has eroded many of the human connections necessary for us to feel good about ourselves.

Skilled craftsmen are a dying breed. Small farm owners are a dying breed. Not everyone wants or needs a college education, they want to pursue a skill or a talent they’ve been given. A love of something they want to do. There are almost no places to apprentice and most items are mass produced, where quality isn’t required (remember obsolescence?) whether it be in large local factories or the giant international agricultural, and other types of monster size businesses that exist today.

 Many products are cheaply made, cheaply purchased and thrown away just as easily, for new ones. Plastic, a by-product of oil, is everywhere. Including our waste landfills and sadly, our oceans, in turn seriously affecting the survival of life.

And yet the real tragedy is we are becoming even needier and less fulfilled as we go along this mistaken path society has currently chosen. Because it’s the wrong one. The current popularity of dystopian books, films and games are just one sign of this.

In life our greatest need as human beings – in many cases, trumping even safety, shelter and to a degree food – is not being met. Without the fulfillment of this need, many of us are like a plant without nutrition that will wither and die.

(Part two, Our Greatest Need, and what we should do to solve it – in the next post!)

 

 

 

Am I an Expert in Life?

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My parents “40th” Anniversary. I’m the smirky looking blond in front. The others are my two wonderful sisters, my brother and next to me my tiny little mom 4’10” (she’s standing on a taller stair) behind her my tall dad and my grandmother just barely looking over! Sorry about the blur!

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I grew up in your typical loving and pretty average family and learned the typical things one learns from this environment. Did I become an expert on family matters? Well hardly, I was 19 when I left home, Duh!

I have read a hundred thousand miles worth of books, and many, millions of words. Am I an expert? Perhaps of reading, and maybe word power.

I have written countless personal journals filled with many thousands of words, over the years, documenting thoughts and feelings happening in the moment. Am I an expert? Perhaps when it comes to journal writing (my own). And maybe a knack with writing!

I have owned, operated and/or managed several small marketing businesses. I was almost successful with an Internet company in the year 2000 – just before the .com crash! Am I an expert? Perhaps in the art of acquiring knowledge in what not to do in business and who not to do it with.

I have experienced in my lifetime – extreme pain (times too numerous to count) both physical and emotional. I have dealt with loss, betrayal (I can count that number), success and failure. Am I an expert on how to live one’s life?  No, but I learn a little more, with each passing day.

I have felt the exquisite passion one can find in love, the extreme happiness of falling in love, and in the birthing of my children and raising them to fine loving adults.

I have also felt the heartbreak of personal betrayal and the pain of abuse. Am I an expert at understanding why people are cruel to others, no! Am I stronger – YES, AMAZINGLY SO! In other words while not an expert in life, I’m not a person one should mess with, nor any of my family or friends, just sayin’.

If there were a category in the Guinness Book of Records for ‘most mistakes made in every given situation’ I’d be in that book! And since one learns from one’s mistakes (assumingly) I must be very wise indeed. However since I don’t feel especially wise on some days, I’m not entirely convinced of the complete accuracy of that statement.

I have been blessed with ample amounts of imagination and creative energy. Am I an expert? No, but one does not need to be with those things. The beauty of life is that whether we become experts or not, with free will, we can learn and grow, create and achieve – in spite of our mistakes and errors in judgement.

Am I an expert when it comes to being grateful and thankful for my many blessings in life? Yes – yes I am.

Penny, son and daughter! And yes a few years ago!

 

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The Tears of our Life and the Strength of our Convictions!

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“Humanity will owe its survival in the future – as in the past – to those with the strength of their convictions who carry on through the compassion of their tears …  despite the burden of their fears.”

Penny L Howe, 2014

Which reminds me ladies (of the U.S.A.) you will be voting in your state elections this year, right? Most important for you to do so … MOST!

The Rightness of Wrong

 

 

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“When a thing is right for all the wrong reasons

then it is surely wrong for all the right reasons

 – and is there a difference in our natures,

we humans should be attending to?”

~ Penny L Howe, 2014

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A great many words float about everywhere.

And photos and videos surely to spare.

quotes are abounding, good sayings so wise,

information is shared in all sorts of guise.

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Then why am I troubled with all that there be,

Many bits and pieces – worrisome to me.

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Too much, too much, my poor mind screams,

Can not take more – what does this mean?

It cannot be thought right to move at this pace,

We are advertising commercials filling all space.

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Slow down, slow down, we really must pause,

For every effect, there is a cause.

I mean what I say but how can this be?

It’s easy of course, the blind cannot see.

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Perhaps it is time to remove the artificial from our eyes and look to one another for that which is needed, so that all of life (including us) can survive and thrive!

~ Penny

The Undertow of Life’s Flow – How to Cope!

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Ah, the ebbs and flows of our lives.

Pretty much on a regular basis we find ourselves wondering how to cope with the unexpected “new something” that has just occurred, potentially rendering havoc of all manner and kind.

So here’s a thought: Consider becoming more flexible, with both your thinking and your actions or should I say reaction (humans are very reactionary by nature).

Consider adapting to your life experiences instead of rigidly always sticking to a previously determined game plan. There are no guarantees in one’s life. No sure thing. Often you get to where you want to be – by going the (perceived) wrong way!

Who knew?

Well, personally I do have more than just a bit of a clue (Alastair, of “A Mixed Bag” has it on good authority – his own, and I do appreciate the compliment, that I am originally from another planet – perhaps, LOL – where we are ahead of earth beings in various matters) however, regarding the subject of “Going With The Flow”, I believe this is something you should learn for yourself. Don’t take my other worldy word for it.

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The next time life leaps up and takes a bite out of you, don’t be so quick to fight it. Look beyond the obvious of what is happening. Is it an opportunity in disguise? Is it a clue to change directions? Is it a hint to pay more attention to a thing that would be beneficial to you in the long run. You can’t know if you stay too restrictive with your decisions, can you?

Just something to think on – at least a little – every now and then – in between your being social correct.

One more thought:

Your Life

“Do remember that in The Book of Life

the Page you’re on … should always be your own.

This is your life … Your Write of Passage” ~ PennyQuote, 2014

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A very special friend of mine, Lisa, of Playamart – Zeebra Designs, whose current home is in Ecuador, suggested the following post be added to this one. I agree completely with her. http://playamart.wordpress.com/2012/02/24/the-undertow/. Definitely of value and worth the clicking through and reading! Thank you, Lisa.

 

The Strength of A Woman!

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Tears of Compassion

Tears do not make one weak. The salty liquid flows freely into the wounds of our trials, increasing resolve and determination to make things better – equal – balanced.

When looking at one of the symbols for justice, you will see it’s represented by a blindfolded female holding the balance scale. I’ve always found that intriguing and representative of how a woman’s role has historically been viewed – still is.

It is increasingly obvious that it is not the woman who is blinded by what she is or isn’t, but rather she is blindfolded by those who see her as – less than.

Personal strength is not about being more physically capable (although all bullies consider it so), strength is also about character, determination, our individual willingness and ability to care. To balance all of our human attributes with greater awareness and understanding and always with compassion. When a woman cries she demonstrates this – crying is not weakness. I repeat – not a weakness.

The sad truth is, too often, weakness of character manifests into physical brutality by an otherwise weak individual – to get their way. Winning by being mean, physically/verbally abusive and in the extreme, killing other people (even in the name of war) is often the easy way out. War achieves first and foremost – death and misery. Power, and the misguided belief “might makes right” has been in existence since the beginning of our caveman days,  and continues on today in many areas of society, government, and big business.

A woman’s compassion is one of humanity’s greatest survival strengths. A man’s physical strength poses for him some of his greatest’s blind-spots and handicaps. Most women want to protect all life, inherently a part of their nurturing nature, and a large part of their strength.

Those who view women as “lesser than” also tend to consider life as just another commodity to be used – as needs be. Again history bears this out. So does the repeated raping and brutality of women, children and the planet itself that we ALL live on.

Universally recognizing the female’s important and ‘completely equal’ half in the “human equation of life”, along with her amazing and natural strengths, can only assist mankind in truly becoming more balanced – it’s time for the blindfold to be gone.

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“Humanity will owe its survival in the future – as in the past –

to those with caring compassion and tears.”

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Thank you,

Penny L Howe, 2014

What do we do next? We bloggers, We artists, We people …

In the digital world of today … how do we not just survive but thrive?

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It’s Tuesday, so what do we know today? We know we have things we have to do – And we know we have things we want to do – We know there is some information we want or need to know more about – and far more information that we don’t have a clue about (what-so-ever, except it’s messing us up a lot) because it’s too much to deal with (emotionally speaking). And “way” too much of the information is negative, isn’t it (TMI- Right?) But, there you go, the above sums things up nicely, I believe.

So what do we do next?

First, understand the nature of the online world; behind the scenes what is going on. Here’s the truth – Many (almost all) corporate/government entities are “crowd sourcing” (gathering information) to create digital profiles. In a nutshell finding out all about you. You’ve made it possible. You’re one of the hundreds of millions online exposing yourself through many little data bytes circulating the airwaves.

And the “Big Boys” of the planet want to know all about you either as a consumer (to potentially buy their product) or as a citizen of their country (How you feel about your country, the issues, your concerns the politicians, etc. Research that will help them raise money and/or potentially influence you to get your vote OR making sure you aren’t doing something subversive, detrimental to your country’s well being.)

Like it or not that is what’s going on, right now. Data collecting of a volume inconceivable for most of us to imagine and each entity (depending on the quality of their “industry cloud capability”) is efficiently organizing the data into a variety of profiles for current or future reference. Is it the big brother era? Well sort of. But we’ve made ourselves willing partners in this intrusive aspect of the online experience, whether we know it or not!

Meanwhile you’re busy doing your own gathering of information, gathering as a citizen and a consumer yourself. So how do you handle all of this information and your awareness of everyone else’s information gathering.

Short of something really bad happening (meteor strike, large solar flare, etc.) all this data is going to continue to be gathered (and much of it circulated). Just a fact and there will be lots of “talk” because that’s what talk shows (in all media – News programs, etc.) do – and much of it is negative because “viewership” (that’s you) goes up when they (talk show hosts and their “expert” guests) talk about ‘what’s wrong’.

So the talk shows are going to talk about all sorts of never-ending stuff that will complicate you life and view of things (if you listen too much) even more. But let’s forget that for right now and get back to you and where you are.

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Turn your computer off and think about your goals, needs, wants and desires. Consider how you might achieve them. View online connections as “how” they may help you. Be specific here. Everyone is giving “advice”, suggestions and in many cases “selling something”. So your main focus should be why you’re on line.

  1. To be Entertained
  2. To Find out information on a subject
  3. To Buy something
  4. To Sell something
  5. Socially connect with other people
  6. Promote Yourselves (through various social networks)
  7. Use any combination of the first six reasons you’re online to assist you in accomplishing your own goals

So where you go next is to make a plan of action to more effectively use your connectivity. Arrange the above reasons and allot a time period (yes – a little discipline is required here).

  • If you’re a student researching – stick to getting the info. before you “game play” or check out the latest trending YouTube video.
  • If you’re an artist, search for “like minded” creative individuals who will help you nourish your creative goals.
  • If you’re selling something, learn about your perspective customers. And how to reach them (online and off).
  • if you’re a professional in an industry and are job searching, focus on those companies and their background so you’re well informed about the company and their goals before you submit a resume! And yes they will be using the internet to check “you out” this process can take many months – so be prepared for this one.
  • If you’re buying something (take the extra time to check out the source before your purchase – be a smart consumer.)
  • If you want to be entertained – go for it, there’s all sorts of fascinating things waiting to be viewed/listened to – out there.
  • and if you just want to “hang”, be social with others, start a blog, join Facebook, learn how to Tweet or find a social media platform that fills this need.

But don’t forget your offline world. Organize your time so your online time has a sense to it with very specific timelines.

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The most important thing to do with your online world of connectivity is to stay in command of both the offline and online you. You need to stay in control of the amount of “data” your mind allows entry to. Integrate this brave new world of communication so it works for you on your adventures through life … not against you!

Have a great day,

~ Penny