When Your Focus is Fear – Refocus Your Focus

The two greatest emotions we humans experience are love and fear. Offshoots of love being happiness, hope, caring, sharing, giving, gratitude, (and other positive uplifting emotions).

Offshoots of fear are equally obvious: Hate, disdain, greed, avarice, cruelty as well as a couple of additional negatives (stemming from fear) that occur within all of us – worry and guilt.

When you are feeling fear (in any form) for any reason and it’s dominating your emotions and thoughts there is a physical routine you can train yourself to do to help diminish and in some cases remove an overwhelming fear that may be controlling your actions.

To refocus your focus:

  1. Take in a deep breath
  2. Feel yourself breathe in slowly
  3. Now feel yourself breathe out slowly
  4. Once you’re controlling your breathing, breathe from your stomach, low. Breathe the breaths deep from within.
  5. Keep the focus on feeling your breath, don’t let any other thoughts intrude.

Initially it may not be easy, but with practice it becomes so. The tension in your body will begin to melt away as you breathe in positive energy and breathe out the negative energy of fear.

Deep measured breathing also helps clear your mind of clutter – focus is then where it needs to be. You’ll be making better decisions as well as viewing things from a more positive perspective.

I hope your weekend is going well for you and continues to do so.

With much affection,

~Penny

The Little Child Inside Of Me

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The little child inside me believes in fairies and dragons

and all manner of wondrous things that fly through the sky.

The little child inside me believes I am as brave as a warrior

and can stand up to the mightiest beast and win.

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The little child inside me believes that all my tomorrows

will be filled with goodness and happiness.

The little child inside me smiles most frequently

And loves most deeply!

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The little child inside me believes that all the people she meets

will be enchanted with love in their hearts.

The little child inside me believes rainbows are the true colors of our being –

radiant with all shades for all people and living things.

The little child inside me believes in magic.

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The grown-up me occasionally thinks about magic, fairies and dragons

but forgets how real they can be, consigning them to an imaginary place.

The grown-up me wants to keep believing and being brave,

but has found life sometimes so scary she forgets how to be brave.

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The grown-up me worries about tomorrow

and forgets to remember it can be filled with happiness.

The grown-up me has met many people

and sometimes forgets to remind herself that there is love in their hearts too.

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The grown-up me still sees rainbows and stars shining in the skies above, but lately sometimes doesn’t see that all the colors are still beautiful and all the stars still shine as brightly as ever.

The little child inside of me reminds the grown-up me of what she believes in her heart.

The grown-up me hopes she will not forget and will continue to believe

in the little child inside me.

Penny L Howe, 2016

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Why You Should Hurry up and Slow Down!

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You should try sitting still – for just a few minutes every day – rest your body & mind and while you’re sitting there, try reflecting on the WHY of what you do every day. You may surprise yourself with some of your answers.

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We live in a crazy hurry up world. And its not slowing down. But you can. All that’s needed is a little bit of preplanning to remove from your life whatever isn’t helping right now, be it an activity, certain thought processes, or a person.

1. Activities – Anything you do that is done out of habit, and not necessary or helpful to you, think about letting it go.

You might also consider the amount of time you spend with social media, just sayin’.

If you are constantly called upon to do favors for others, who don’t reciprocate in their turn, regarding your needs, start saying no to them. Doing things for others is nice, but can be very time consuming (this includes family members).

2. Worries – If you spend a fair amount of time worrying about things then it’s time to make a list and see which of those worrisome things you can actually do something about. Effort on your part will be required, but the end result is you’ll have less things to worry about.

3. People – There are people out there with poor attitudes and an overall negative outlook on life. You don’t need these people around you. They’ll go out of their way to tell you what you’re doing wrong or what’s wrong with you or someone, or something you care about.

Dump them. You don’t need them or their negativity. And chances are they’re also one of the items you spend time worrying about so you’ll have removed two things that take away precious time, a person(s) and an item on your worries list (this also includes family members).

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Bottom line here is value yourself highly by BALANCING your needs with time spent. If you aren’t good to yourself, those you do care about will suffer – as will you.

Thank you for stopping by, have a great time saving day!

~ Penny

Perhaps we worry ‘not enough’ or ‘too much’ or …?

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“My mind, it wanders as I wonder … about tomorrows, all our tomorrows!” ~ Penny L Howe, 2015

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 It’s hard to know how to feel on any given day. Change is happening so quickly these days.

I’m thinking that maybe I’ll think on things a little less and make the best of each day that comes my way!

I hope your week has been a prosperous one for you, take time to smell the flowers, enjoy one another and of course as always … to take care of you!

with much affection,

~ Penny

Gratitude, in spite of …

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Having an especially bad day? Everything’s going wrong and you feel overwhelmed with things and what’s even worse is nobody seems to care. People are being rude and appear to be indifferent to your problems and concerns. You’re thinking, why bother with anything.

With negative thoughts and emotions, you’re feeling sensitive and abused, hurt, angry (pick an emotion that works for you) NOW, RIGHT NOW is the time to be grateful … as silly and unhelpful as that may sound. The thing is it actually works, because how you’re viewing things changes. You see potentials and possibilities you didn’t see when thinking negatively.

When things seem at their very worst – being grateful for what you do have will be the thing that generates positive change. It’s always worked that way, it’s just that most of us don’t notice it.

So go ahead, give it a try. You’ll be surprised … pleasantly surprised.

~ Take care of you and have a wonderful day and better tomorrow,

Penny

I’m just one American – A letter to the President of our great country, USA!

“Dear Mr. President Obama,

This is Penny, yes one of your constituents. I’m having a problem right now, along with most of us other 300 million citizens.

I’m just one American out here in Washington state … but I’m worried. I’m hoping you can help me understand what’s going on.

As I was taught (in school) about the governing process (in our democratic country), our wise founding fathers  set up a counter system of checks and balances to make sure that each branch could (if needs be) check the actions of others. This was done to insure that no part of the government had too much power.

And as I understand it, each of our elected representative’s main job is …

DEFINITION OF Elected Representatives (Senators, Congressmen): Those individuals voted to REPRESENT their local constituents (me and others)

… to help (the duly elected (voted for) TWICE President of the U.S.A. – that’s you) GOVERN our country.

“So WHY, Mr. President is one tiny group of Elected Representatives (see definition up above) in fact one person in particular … holding our Government and the people of the Great United States of America hostage?

Usurping his own elected position by carrying out his own private agenda at the wishes of a very few other people. And doing this at the expense of the American people – BY STOPPING THE GOVERNING PROCESS ITSELF!

Please, answer me. I need an answer. More to the point, I need you the chosen leader of this country to figure out what to do! Soon!”

Thank you,
Very troubled in Washington,
Penny L Howe

(Just Penny’s “two cents” worth here)

… and yes I am fully cognizant and aware (politically) of what’s ‘actually’ going on, how it happened, and why. I am being focused with my letter to the President to create (hopefully) a stronger message! I love my country and fellow Americans (all of you) very much, Thanks, Penny

The wars we wage …

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“The mightiest battles waged are never seen or viewed,
but experienced deep within ourselves –
each and every one of us! No exceptions!”

~ Penny L Howe, 2013

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These are true words. For our emotional battles we need to arm ourselves with the strongest of all weapons for overcoming insecurities, fears, doubts and hate: Love, Hope and Forgiveness.

Pure love needs nothing more.

Hope lifts us up and carries us through adversity.

Forgiveness allows us to let go and move on.

Each a mighty weapon to carry in our arsenal as we journey through life’s adventures!

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Much love to all – I’m still mostly offline – but it’s a troubling time for many, just wanted to share a few uplifting words this week and remind you that you are not alone – “this place” in my arms is wide enough to wrap around every single one of you! Always remember – my home is your home – always!

Take care of yourselves,

~ Penny

The Minions of It All.

We have officially adopted a handful of “minions” into our household. Their purpose – create laughter and fun in our daily lives … and to remind us not to take (so seriously) the very minor, everyday happenings we may encounter.

The following video is the official  movie trailer for Despicable Me 2! The minions will make you laugh, again and again, in their playful and delightful innocence with all things in life. Enjoy:

(To view directly on Youtube, look for Despicable Me 2 – official trailer.)

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And I recomment you adopt a few minions for your own home. More chaos, for sure! More laughter and fun – Absolutely!

Have a great day and a better tomorrow!

~ Penny

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The Art of being Playful -101!

Has anyone noticed that life can be a little … TOUGH!!!

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Life comes at a person fast and furious (on some days). Or dreary and overwhelmingly dull and even (should I use the word … depressing) on other days. Scary, Frightening, Sad, Miserable, Hectic, Cruel, Too much, too much, too much …

There you go. That’s us humans for you. We’re a very reactionary bunch aren’t we? We think and emote over almost everything. Maybe we’re too stationary. Or not stationary enough (mentally speaking)!

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I think we need more “playful” breaks. Tickling and giggling are good. Just running with a burst of energy for no reason at all is good. Singing a fun song just for the heck of it.

“If your happy and you know it clap your hands.

If you’re happy and you know it clap your hands.

If you’re happy and you show it then the whole wide world will know it,

it you’re happy and you know it clap your hands.”

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Happiness is a state of being. It doesn’t “fix’ the problems of the world. But it certain puts us in a more positive productive mode (mood also) which can in fact change how we approach the problems of the world. Change your attitude and things don’t appear quite so untenable.

Saying I love you for no reason at all except you just want to in the moment (children do that spontaneously, you know).

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And being sensual … as in my last post. That’s being playful also. On a list of top ten playful things for adults to do … Being openly sensual is right up there towards the top because we need each other and we need to let each other know this. A very good and “playful” reminder for you today.

It’s Thursday, a work day for many, still take a little bit of time today and be playful,

thanks for stopping by,

~ Penny

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I look up at the Sky … and wonder?

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I look up at the sky and wonder.

I wonder what tomorrow’ll bring.

Will clouds still be white?

Will the moon shine as bright?

Will there still be birds on the wing?

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I wonder, will I be happy

Or sad, like so many I see.

It’s so hard to tell

my future as well,

I wonder what I’ll grow up to be.

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It’s not so much that I worry

It’s more, I think, that I care.

So I look at the sky

Wondering why

And if … we’ll all learn how to share!

~ Penny L Howe 2013

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Thanks for the visit, hope your week is going well for all of you!

~ Penny

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