How many of you begin your day with self depreciating remarks? Or statements about what’s going to go wrong today. Or all the reasons everything bad seems to happen to you. Or perhaps you say to yourself, “why bother to try? This person or that person is going to ruin my day!”
These type of thoughts and statements become self fulfilling the more you repeat them. You send a signal to your brain that says you can’t win, you can’t overcome and … that you think of yourself or your situation as a losing one.
First rule of being happy much less successful is to believe in yourself. Not because you’re going to go out tomorrow and conquer the world, but because where you are, right this minute is only temporary and you’re a good person who can ‘step by step’ move forward in a positive way, because you know you can. You believe in you.
What really, really helps the “step by step” process is to not tell yourself, ahead of time, why you can’t do something. Or blame a situation or a person for problems and circumstances. We all feel insecure and worried, even fearful at times. This is normal but it shouldn’t stop us from accomplishing our goals.
So today is a good day to start saying those self fulfilling things that support what you want to do. Things like “Today I’m going to get my tasks done regardless of what comes my way.” Or “I’m not going to let another person’s negative attitude or perhaps even rude bullying behavior affect me”. Or “Today I believe in me and someway, somehow I will do those things I’d planned to do.”
You positively reinforce your own mindset (thinking patterns of behavior) when your thoughts, words and action have a “can do” mentality. It will strengthen your resolve as well.
Try it. You’ll discover it really works. And by repeating daily, this can make a significant difference between success and failure. Remember you’ve only failed when you stop! Every other thing that goes wrong is just a temporary disappointment and a part of your ongoing learning experience.
Have a great day and … always, take care of you!
“Acknowledge, reward, praise and applaud.
Encouragement – a wonderful gift to receive,
an even better one to give … always!”
~ Penny L Howe, 2013
We each know how good we feel when someone says something encouraging to us. The day seems a little bit brighter and we feel better about ourselves and what we are trying to accomplish.
It works the other way too. Each time we take just a few extra minutes to be supportive, let another person know we think they’re doing a good job, it brightens their day as well. It can mean so much more than we realize, perhaps even making that important difference in self confidence and determination at a time when really needed. Continue reading
The beauty of a woman is not an exterior thing. Although from a physical perspective there are many beautiful women. The beauty of a woman isn’t just an interior thing. Most women are amazingly loving, caring and giving. The beauty of a woman lies in the unique combination of genes that created her.
She stands alone on several fronts. It is a given that ‘needs be’ she can accomplish more in a single day than thought possible but even that isn’t the main beauty of a woman.
Her very essence and nature draws people together. Encourager of Humanity if you like. She is a nurturer and a teacher (regardless of her own educational level) she will immediately go into a teaching mode with another when seeing the need. For most women it is instinctive. She is a nurse and seems to know when and how to fix a wound, a hurt, an ailing part of another human being.
And while she may look for her place in the order of things and struggle to be recognized for her true value and worth … know this … it is already there built into her very being.
She is a female and this defines her better than any other. Mother of all and essential to life, not because she carries, gives birth and then nurtures us as children, but because she also sustains us as adults.
And she always will … regardless of the ever increasing roles and responsibilities she has in her life.
Thanks for reading, have a wonderful remaining week and always remember … take care of you!
with much affection,
… because I can be more than I am … BECAUSE I believe in Me! (Say mantra daily and repeat as needed.)
Life has a habit of intruding into our plans. Have you noticed this? I certainly have. You find yourself derailed from the direction you were headed by some unanticipated occurrence. And in many cases it seems to be an ongoing scenario, those unanticipated interruptions.
So what to do? Simplify your daily task schedule, (as you can) create a little spare time to handle potential interruptions. A good portion of what throws us off base are the emotions experienced (stress) with an unexpected event. Allowing for the possibility of unexpected intrusions in your day gives you a more positive mindset for approaching and resolving unplanned situations.
Work on improving your personal organizational skills. Between work and family (both young and old) and the variety of responsibilities accompanying each area of involvement, the better organized you are, the better equipped you will be for tackling your tasks and completing them.
There are going to be hard days. I’ve discovered the best way to deal with them is to Think Positive and stay emotionally in control of yourself, don’t go to a ‘bad place’. Don’t allow negative thoughts to take over. Remind yourself you can get through this latest interruption. Regardless of what it is.
There are many excellent examples of average people who manage to continue on, in spite of overwhelming odds and adversity. What they all have in common … they never lose sight of their goal, they stay determined and they … Believe in Themselves!
Have a great week ahead, and as always … take care of you. If you aren’t well not only do you have a harder time accomplishing your goals, you can’t be there for those who need you!
How many trees to be counted? How many trees to survive? How many trees just won’t make it? How many will still be alive? How many will be felled and forgotten, more (this I know) than a few. I’ve worried, oh yes, how I’ve worried – and don’t know what to do. I thought and thought as I walked and walked though the snow hanging onto my shoes. There seems, well so many, but if there weren’t any, What … then what … would we do?
How many trees must humanity use, too many to so abuse. But at this rate, it seems much to late, and their fate is what we choose. And sadly our own … we all lose.
as numbering trees
number humanity’s days
a sadness for life
Deforestation is a reality on the planet earth. Since we (all living things) need the trees to sustain our life, it is indeed a great sadness. As his Honorable Dalai Lama said. “In our own homes we do not throw the furniture we need into the fireplace to burn up, why would we do this to our home, the planet earth?” A good question don’t you think?
Thank you for reading, I hope my words today give you some “food for thought”!
With much affection,
In your daily activities, do you see the image of the thing or the thing itself! Life is life. People are people. Things are just things! Getting our priorities in order will hopefully be what puts humanity back on course.
Some saw it coming, the age of large industrial companies and now technological corporations as well, multinational megalithic companies employing 9 to 5 (or longer hrs) workers (hence an outdated school system that hasn’t kept pace but keeps churning out children to be workers for others), removal from home environments in country settings and removal, for many people, from nature itself. The abuse going on with each other, with wild animals, with our lands and seas, wouldn’t be happening if we (all of us) were paying attention and not so intensely focused on those created images manufactured to sell the next new latest, greatest thing! Things. Lots and lots of things.
We have to re-energize our souls. Stop the hate, which achieves nothing but more hate. Stop the killing. It’s wrong :period: Begin again by paying attention to what matters. Family, friends, neighborhoods, communities and yes the manner in which we are governed. The purpose of having governments is to protect the rights of it’s citizens. This cannot happen when governments and politicians around the world are controlled by big business interests, which they are. As are the wars and the subsequent poverty in emerging countries by willful disregard for the needs of the locals when big business moves in.
There is so much raw potential in the human spirit to make a positive difference in our world today. Truly awesome, but it cannot continue on it’s current path.
If mother nature had a form
mayhaps she’d be a tree,
or a little garden worm
but not the likes of ……me or thee!
Penny L Howe, 2015
I know there are many who feel as I do, I am hopeful the number of passionate people for intelligent change on our planet continues to grow, just as life should be allowed to do!
Thanks for stopping by, hope you’re enjoying your weekend – have a great week ahead and as always take care of you!
With much affection,